Alcoholic?

Question

PersonX is an engineer and has overcome many hardships during his life. He came to this country from far away at a very young age to study and support his family. For the last 10 years, PersonX has been drinking about 3 glasses of red wine a day 6 out of 7 days a week. Sometimes PersonX behaves wierd after drinking wine: he gets irritated quickly and he sleeps early. I know that PersonX loves his family and does a lot for them. I am wondering if it is the wine that is affecting his behavior. Please give a detailed response. Thank you for answering.

Extra Notes: PersonX is between 50 and 60 years old and makes about 100K per year. The amount of wine in each glass is normal.

I have tried asking PersonX to stop but PersonX gets angry at me. What should I do now?

Answer 1

Yeah, it sounds like it's a bit much wine for personX (although I don't know if X is an alcoholic) I believe a glass of red wine a day is supposed to be really good for you. Maybe personX should lower the amount of wine to two cups a day, and eventually one. Irritated quickly sounds like a drunk I know (and I know the whole rainbow -from funny drunk to naked drunk lol-) But first you should have a talk with X. If you think the behavior is bad enough that something needs to be done, tell X. "We're not saying 'stop', just 'slow down' ." That might help to not threaten X. Also, does the family have a problem with the behavior? If not, it might not be something to worry too much about.

Answer 2

The definition of alcoholic is not what he drinks but HOW he drinks. If personX was alcoholic then personx would not be able to drink 3 glasses of red wine, he would down the bottle and get drunk. The difference between a habitual drinker and an alcoholic being that the habitual drinker drinks a lot but knows when to stop. A Alcoholic can't stop, he got to get drunk. The point here is, that I do not think that anyone has the right to classify another as an alcoholic, not even if anyone means well. Only PersonX can do that. It is custom in some countries to drink 1-3 glasses of red wine before going to bed, no one sees anything wrong with that, and so I would not even consider approaching PersonX with this subject. He drinks 3 glasses of wine on a daily basis--so what? He works hard, supports his family, he does have a right to his 3 glasses of red wine. In addition to that--the weird behavior can be attributed to the use of the wine all right, but it can also be attributed to a lot of things: stress, health problems etc.etc. Only Person X knows and only Person X can decide weather he is an alcoholic or not.....

Answer 3

PersonX has overcome many hardships, but so has his wife & children
Personx can live next door & still study and support his family.
PersonX probably would not be so irritated if he slacked back to 0ne glass of wine.
Yes, you are looking a life the wrong way. Weird? I don't want to know, but you should find out what's really eating at you and fix the problem before it's bottom of the bottle time. And talk about Hardships and Pain. You say you did, and do everything for your family. Sounds like an excuse to drink, and unless your drinking cheap wine, you can use that money for other pastimes for yourself and family.
Don't worry your not alone. Joy in life has been achieved without alcohal. Look for it.By all means don't be embaressed. It's just part of growing out of a 10 year habit that isn't doing what it use to do for you.

Answer 4

The wine could be affecting this person. Or it could not be. You say sometimes this person acts weird after drinking, but not all the time. Well, if wine is a problem for PersonX then they should seek help to fix the problem. If it's not a problem for PersonX or anyone else, then drinking three glasses of wine a day is fine.

Answer 5

Yes. Alcohol will change people's behavior. It doesn't matter how many drinks the person has...it will change their personality guaranteed. My husband is a sober alcoholic. I've been with him for 18 years and only the last 4 years he has been sober. If your PersonX wants to sober up, then have them get a prescription from the doctor to help them. This miracle drug of the century is called Librium. It calms the nerves so the craving of drinking will go away. It's what helped my husband get through the most difficult part of his life....sobriety.

Answer 6

personX needs to find anotha outlit besides the red wine, so maybe if someone can help releave some of the work load n stress from personX and show him there is otha things to do then it will help but yes its the red wine

Answer 7

Does personX think its a problem? Denial is usually the first sign of an additction. Tell him to stop drinkin gfor 3 weeks and see if things change...

Answer 8

If PersonX is not sure if he has a problem or not, then there is a chance he does have a problem. Have him check this page and take the test. Early intervention is always best. He doesn't want to lose his job and family. http://www.nd.edu/~ucc/ucc_alcohol2.html

Answer 9

3 glasses of wine per day doesn't sound like a really serious addiction...but then again, depends on the size of the glass! If the alcohol is altering his mood&actions for the worse, it can still be a huge problem. Nobody is immune to alcohol's effects, but everyone reacts differently, at different rates. Maybe he needs to give up a little just to see if things will get better from there...if he really loves his family, he will listen if they tell him that he needs to change his habits...

Answer 10

i know a few people that drink wine that much, if not more, and they are NOT alcoholics! it's just a way for a working woman or man to unwind after their hard day of work. i think it's just stress building up. i am not saying this person is NOT an alcoholic, everyone's situation is different, but i don't think 3 glasses of wine every night makes them an alcoholic. the person doesn't drink the whole bottle, right??