After dating for 4 years, me & my ex went through a very sour & painful breakup. During our breakup I would constantly cry & beg him to take me back but he would angrily yell, insult me, tell me to move on, & refused to take me back. I finally let go & we no longer dealt with each other anymore. As time passed, I made a new boyfriend & during the time I was with my boyfriend my ex would call my house just to see how me & my family was doing cuz he knew us for a very long time. I told him not to call anymore because I had a boyfriend & it's not right that I speak to him. He agreed & stopped calling. My current relationship with my new boyfriend just ended & me & my old ex started talking again. Even though I'm single again, I'm uncertain whether or not I should be talking to him again because I think I may still have feelings for him & I don't think he feels the same way. He has other female friends, goes clubbing (I don't) & asks me to hang out with him. What should I do?
2006-07-14 13:18:54 · 10 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honest truth... i've been thru the same situation as you but slightly different scenarios... but i recommend you not talk to him anymore. i know right now you want to still talk to him because you like him (not for friendship wise). however, like you stated, he goes clubbing and don't have the same feelings back and let's say he starts telling you about his sex stories or telling you all his girl problems. trust me... it would hurt you a lot more than you not ever talking to him ever again. why find a problem out of nothing? so i suggest you avoid being friends with him because it would hurt you real bad hearing about him and other girls. unless you're willing to accept it then i guess it's cool to be friends still since you know him for that long. however, do know there's a difference between knowing someone as a friend for a long time and being with someone as a bf for a long time. if you guys were actual real friends for a long time then nothing's wrong with being friends again. but if you guys only know each other for a long time because of gf/bf... once you guys don't like each other anymore or broke up... all there is left is hatred or it just doesn't mean much anymore no matter how long the yrs were. so you think about this for a while... if you really want to be friends with him because you want him as a real friend... or do you really want to be friends with him because you want to be with him again? if you want to be with him again then i say forget it. it would hurt a lot knowing the fact that he doesn't feel the same. it would actually stop or slow down the process of you forgetting him too if you guys still talked. so just think about it. i hope you the best. good luck kk?
2006-07-14 13:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by dorkydork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get rid of this guy for all time. He already has shown you how he will react when he decides he no longer is so in love with you wham bam you right back right you don't want to be feeling like you don't want to feel with someone you just cannot stand.Too many other guys out there to put up with this kinda of stuff. I wouldn't count on him to love and hold during the night.
2006-07-14 14:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i will respond to this as surely as I in all likelihood can, because I surely were down a similar street formerly. First issues first - Why do you experience that that's necessary inspect him, and secret agent on him. Has he finished something in the previous (formerly this female) to make you doubt he's trustworthy? you're checking is emails, stepping into and blockading and deleting human beings from his facebook account. that is *no longer* ok. If he had finished this to you, should be be disenchanted? Its not in any respect okay to act like that. Now - Him being in contact with the ex. It *ought to* be something. It *ought to* be that he nevertheless has emotions for her. They were mutually a lengthy time period in accordance to you. You dont in simple terms supply up worrying for someone after that lengthy. notwithstanding it *is* a threat to in basic terms be her pal. I surely have adult men that I used therefore far, that I stay in contact with. we are in simple terms friends. in simple terms because I upload you to my facebook, and ask you techniques your existence is going, does no longer propose i prefer to go away my relations to get decrease back alongside with you. There are so deep believe themes the following. In my own opinion, you both favor specialist help in the way of a wedding ceremony counselor. and also you *have* to offer up spying on him. until eventually you are able to exercising consultation those believe themes, your marriage will not in any respect very last.
2016-10-14 11:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question, we all go through breakups for one reason or another ( sometimes we can still be friends after the break up and sometimes we can't) but as the song says LISTEN TO YOUR HEART.
Smile, go for a walk and talk to your higher power about it.
2006-07-14 13:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by detroit_city_girl@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
X's are X's for a reason.......Once you break up it never is the same. I would just let him go and live your own life...I am in contact with my X from 10 years ago but it is differant, time healed the woond. Its all your choice tho, you do whats in your heart but remember your heart is what usualy hurts you the most, your head knows whats right for you!!!!
2006-07-14 13:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother with him. The best thing to do is to let the past stay in the past.
I recently re-contacted my ex-. I had convinced myself we really were "friends" before we got involved. Honestly, he's whine-y, self-absorbed, and plays these stupid emotional head games. And SURPRISE! he always was those things...I was just too blinded by LOVE to notice them, or I made excuses for it.
Let it go and move on.
2006-07-14 13:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i want you to think about the time he told you to move on,i want you to think about how it felt when he insulted you.he did not want nothing to do with you and guess what you moved on.you did the right thing when you told him not to call anymore.okay you say your single again,okay why go back to someone who did not even care about you or your feelings.my advice forget this guy you moved on before with someone else and you will again.....
2006-07-14 13:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by dede2772 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No leave him where he stands because think do you wanna go through the same thing you went through before Think Hard
2006-07-14 13:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by it'sunusal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to begin aganTalk yes any thing else no. The breakup was to messy to began agin.
2006-07-14 13:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by BUTCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never have too many friends. The way he treated you was wrong, just don't let it get intimate again.
2006-07-14 13:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jim's redheaded girly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋