it has been more than 5 yrs we're together. however whenevers we get into arguments i would be the one to pacify things. every time we break up either i suggest it or he does, i would be the only one to care or cry. he would just be mad and act like an a s s hole. i mean he could be acting hard but that's the point... is a guy like that that only shows that he's mad when things go wrong worth it to even be with or try? sometimes afterwards he would call me back after i give up trying so hard, but the process before that already hurt me too much but most of the time i forgive and try to be happy with him. but this is happening way too much. he never really compromises. as you can tell he prob don't even care or as much as i do because usually i would be the one to cry or care for the relationship. so should i just move on (not to someone else but just drop him)? should i give up trying as he doesn't even care for me or the relationship?
2006-07-14 13:08:23 · 7 answers · asked by dorkydork 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah... sometimes or most of the time i do try my hardest to compromise or work things out. however, sometimes if it's on the phone he would hang up on me or just don't want to deal with it. if it's at his house then he would kick me out. he wouldn't even let me cry in front of his family if that does happen. when i cry he doesn't even care. i don't threaten to leave... i want to leave because he doesn't care. sometimes he give me mix msgs by calling me after i give up and expect us to just get along. i guess that's his way of dealing with things... but that's what i need to know is if a guy like that is worth it (no matter if he likes me or not)?
2006-07-14 13:20:30 · update #1
ok he has been with you for 5 years. that says alot in this day and age... it is very rare to find a man who shows his emotions. sometimes it has to depend on how they are raised and sometimes they are scared about what others think.. and sometimes he might actually be mad.. mad at the fact that it keeps happening or mad at himself... the key to all of it is trying to sit him down and compromise.. b/c he will only take threatening to leave so many times. if you have to trap yourself in the house for two days just so you can compromise then do it.. but if you really don't think anything is going to change then yes i suggest leave.. b/c if you sit there and are miserable then you will never have the chance to find true happiness!
2006-07-14 13:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by ~MRS. PILKINGTON~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was acting as if he didn't care because you acted like you cared too much. He was feeding his ego off your need to have him. Next time you argue or whatever, turn the tables on him and act as if you don't care anymore (even though you do), don't call him as much and he will soon wonder why you don't want him and more. Reverse psychology is perfect for situations like this!!
2006-07-14 20:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by UlickNme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't care by now, he never will. Why put yourself thru this over and over again? Drop him, take your time, get over him, find yourself a nice guy.
2006-07-14 20:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 5 years
You should know by now if not. I would be wondering if YOU are worth it.
2006-07-14 20:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. let him go. there's got to be caring on both sides or it's not worth the effort.
2006-07-14 20:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by sheepherder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him think is he worth it
2006-07-14 20:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by it'sunusal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to piss off!!!!!!!!! your time could be much better spent! find someone else
2006-07-14 20:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by tinytotty1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋