Sister Problems?

Question

My sister is sometimes a really nice person to be around, but then other times she's a total b*tch. And I mean it when I say that sometimes I really hate her. She's selfish and she lies.

I feel like she's always taking advantage of me, what should I do??

Sometimes she slaps me (like normal sister fights) and I get so angry at this, I hate it when people do that to me, and I just want to slap the sh*t out of her, do I have a bad temper or is that justifiable?

She's younger, but she thinks she's the best and smartest person on the planet.

I HATE HER I HATE HER I HATE HER

What gets me is that I'm so nice to her. SO NICE. I never hit her (well only if she hits me first), and I don't call her embarrassing, and I don't b*tch at her for no reason, and I'm not selfish about things, but she's all of those things.

Sometimes it makes me cry cuz I'm so angry lol

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel! My sisters (I have 4!!) can all do the same thing. I've on more than one occassion wanted to just knock them all out.
First, I would tell her flat out, that slapping you for ANY REASON needs to STOP right then and there. She has NO RIGHT to hit you, sister or not! If she does it again she CAN AND WILL spend time in jail if you call the police.
It is justifiable to want to her her back, I wouldnt though. You just need to explain to her that what she is doing hurts--and thats not just physically. She needs to know that you feel she is taking advantage of you by the lies she tells.
Once she knows all that, I would stop making yourself available to her to take advantage of you. Tell her your busy, you have plans, whatever it needs to be to avoid being her doormat.

Answer 2

Sisters will be sisters. I came from a family of 9 and they were all boys except me and my younger sister. We fought like cats and dogs all our lives. Now we are the best of friends and don't hang around our brothers much.

Also, I had 3 children and they are all girls and they fought like cats and dogs too. Now they are in their mid to late 20's and they get along great. Two of them even held a duel birthday party last weekend for their daughters who were born a year apart.

As far as the question are you justified. The answer to that is probably no. Not that she is either but I can tell you from past experiences that you are driving her as crazy as she is driving you.

Answer 3

your normal sweety! I bet she is the older sister huh? I went through the same thing with my sister. Im the older one. And i used to kick her a*s but then she started fighting back and believe me things got soo bad! we once got into a fight and I dumped a whole bottle of listerine on her head right when she got out of the shower and she threw a hot curling iron on me. There were fights when we would hit each other with hangers and boards! lol oh the good ol days! But now we are as close as ever. What may work is make her feel guilty. Really act sad and hurt and not talk to her when she is rude to you. Or maybe tell your parents if it gets too out of hand. Good luck girly!

Answer 4

Make her accountable for both behaviors by being neutral and unreactive to both her niceness and rudeness.

WHEN SHES RUDE, do your best not to show frustation or hurt but DO call her on it, telling her matter of factly how she is acting.

WHEN SHES NICE, instead of being nice back remain unaffected.

It makes you someone she cant vent against rudely and then expect to share happy time when she happens to feel like it. What a shame - she will look back and regret treating you this way.

Answer 5

Somehow you sound like the eldest child. My kids were the same way and I told my eldest to not to hold it in and to voice her frustration. Hitting was not allowed and if it got out of hand that they should bring it to my attention and I'll settle things. Since then their relationship has gotten much better and they don't truly hate each other.

Answer 6

I sometimes feel that way with my brother.. I know that you just want to slap her but you have to control yourself... just go up to your room or get on the internet for a little while and go on.. if you give her respect then she'll most likely notice and treat you the same...

Answer 7

Just try to get away from her if you can. Spend more time with friends or alone in the house. That way you can appreciate her good aspects when you want to.
Otherwise, that sucks but it's not that abnormal and neither are you.

Answer 8

growing up I was a tomboy. I have 3 older brothers whom I use to fight with constantly. Once we grew up and started moving out of the house we started getting along. One of my brothers and I are now best friends. I'm sure you and your sister will grow out of this.

Answer 9

You should probably just sit down and talk to her about it, and if she doesn't want to listen tell her your calling a family therapist and that you want to talk this crap out, and your sick of her acting immature and lying to you, just tell her your through with it, and no you don't have a bad temper nobody should have to put up with that kind of stuff.

Answer 10

Remember she is your sister for life, be popular by being nice to everyone. if you fight back it may get worse.
stay clear and when it cools down, ask her to sit down and talk with you about this very thing.
It is tough my sister stabbed me with a pair of scissors.
when I got better and happy times were in the air I sat down and talked about it with her. give it time and be care-full and wise.