my gf and i broke up after 5 yrs... i cant stop thinking about her. I dont want to push her away for good, and dont want to ruin things for the future((if there is one for us,, which i think there is. anyway what can i do to get my mind off her and also not act clingy, or like i need her so i dont push her away
2006-07-14 11:14:05 · 6 answers · asked by t2006s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time is a great healer. You will carry the pain of loving for a while. Engage in some form of activity which you enjoy. Give her her space. Sometimes a little break is good. If the relationship is to resume it will, if not, I hope both of you can later become good friends.
2006-07-14 11:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have broken it off think of all the reasons that brought it to the end. Without intervention you will be doomed to repeat the mistakes of the past with her if you give it another stab. When one door closes another door opens, let this door close and leave it closed. Get on with meeting new people, try things yoiu have never done before and take up a hobby or sport. when you want to grieve or feel bad for the lose, do so but only allow yourself a set time. This will give you time to heal and not be consumed with the whole thing. START DATING other girls. Don't get all serious or commited just go out and have fun, talk, eat, play whatever but do it! Help yourself get over it by getting on with life and seeing what is out there. WE have 30000 potential mates statistically so nothing ventured nothing gained or lost!
2006-07-14 12:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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The relaitonship "died".
You are grieving.
You are in the "denial" stage.
When you finally get yourself all the way through the stages of blame (yourself...her..God);
and get through the anger
and the hurt
and the depression
then you will come to "acceptance".
During this grieving, it is best to get out, and be with friends and family. Even if tears are streaming down your face, recognize you are grieving, and it will get better.
You WILL love again. Hopefully you will
select a person better suited to you.
Select someone who can be your best-friend, that you can respect, and trust, and care for in a sharing and caring way, and that turns you on too.
Go slow in giving out your heart next time, in equal increments to the love you are receiving.
I wish you love
stw
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2006-07-14 11:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi just remember the good times, it is over so plan ahead you sound young enough to start all over again with someone new. if you go back with her it wont work out
2006-07-14 11:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY way to cope with the pain of any breakup is to cut off ALL CONTACT with her. Repeat: CUT OFF ALL CONTACT with her. You have broken up. Act like it and move on with your life.
2006-07-14 11:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and do stuff with your friends. You have to have a life without her. She cannot be the center of your universe. You have to be the center.
2006-07-14 11:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋