I've been writing to a guy from the US for 3mths, he's invited me over, he'll pay the fare, he seems a genuine caring person, we've become very close, no talk of sex, just everyday talk, he's phoned me lots of times and talked for about an hour at a time, just wondered what peoples views are.
2006-07-14 10:38:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 42 and single. I've travelled a lot, even lived abroad for a while.
2006-07-14 10:49:44 · update #1
When i went to New York with my family, i met a girl over there who i was chatting to for a year, but when i met her i made sure that people were around and it was a secure location.
When meeting people over the net like that, you needs to be very careful, they might seem nice over the net, but in person, you really dont know. If you do decide to go, make sure carry some one with you for protection.
2006-07-14 10:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
i have done this before and will never forget. I was very lucky, I went to NY to meet some body alone after meeting him on the net. I didn't have a clue as to what I was getting into. The person was charmed about how courageous I was to have taken this chance. Nothing really happened except that he went out of his way to make sure I had a great time. He later visit me. Would I do it again? Not in this life time.
I would not do it again because as you get older you start taking less risk. That person could have done anything to me and nobdy would have known. We broke up after a few visit of back and forth but remain friends. Its up to you, and if you do it take someone with you.
2006-07-14 17:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, go with what you truly believe, i would keep talking for a while yet.
I have met a lady from Texas who came over to England to be with her Internet friend, and they appear now to have a good relationship. This is a positive note. But just like a blind date you just wont know for sure till you meet
If you do decide to go, make sure you have a way of returning. in case things just don't work out.
Perhaps go over for a Holiday for a start if that's possible and take a friend
what ever you decide Good luck and Take care
2006-07-14 17:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by mctazz2001 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rule number1: Be careful and cautious. Try to meet initially in a neutral public place (restaurant, mall, museum) during the day, and do not stay at his place. If you have your own hotel room, you have the independence to walk away at any time if you feel uncomfortable. Actually, If I were you, I'd ask him to come to my country and be in my territory where I have family or friends around me to help me if I feel nervous or want another opinion. If he's genuine, his coming to visit you would be a good first step. Let him feel nervous rather than you.
2006-07-14 18:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by Princess Lueji 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, if you do decide to take a friend with you as it is still very risky, there are alot of weirdos out there, maybe suggest he comes to where you live as you are the female and he should really follow you, dont be sucked in, 3 months is quite quick, if he comes where you live you are sort of incontrol and comfortable and have friends and family around you at all times. its up to you but the internet is a big place, it might not be you that hes just emailing.
2006-07-14 17:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son of 22 had a girl to stay recently from the States... they met online... possibly in this site... he wont tell me... spent hours on email and the phone... he's run up serious debt because of her... and is meeting her again next week in Ireland... and again, in the USA, end of year.
Am I worried... yes... very... not just females are at risk.
But you are much older... and should stay wiser... loneliness makes us behave in ways we never would normally.
Be careful... make sure that every step of the way, others know your whereabouts... and check this guy out, make sure the name is genuine... check him for criminal records, try these links.
http://www.courtrecords.org/index.php?id=20&xpath=index
http://www.abika.com/Reports/Freebackgroundchecksandverifications.htm
2006-07-14 18:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have met several friends on line from different countries, but none in a romantic way. I would be very cautious at first, you never know who is a psycho! Simply test the waters and stay in public places, never catch yourself alone with him until you are sure. Could someone you trust come with you? Good luck!
2006-07-14 17:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it. You dont really know him. You just share common interests. You know what he wants to tell you. It's a big step going to see him. He should come to you. Stay in a hotel and make sure you are not alone. When you know him better then spend time with him alone but in a public place.
Thats my view anyway. Never put yourseld in a position where things could go wrong.
2006-07-14 17:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by carolyn s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know a lady who meet a guy on the net who was also from the USA. they emailed, talked on the phone, sent letters and little gifts to each other he seemed so genuine and really seemed to care for her he said he was a fireman. anyway this went on for about a year or so and he offered to pay for her to go out there. sadly he turned out to be a paedophile. just go with your gut feeling and dont let your heart rule your head.
2006-07-14 17:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by make*a*wish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am marrying the girl I met in Poland...she is here right now in CA. We communicated over email for several months after meeting briefly.
2006-07-14 17:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋