Im not very attracted to him physically but he seems a nice guy. I dont know him too well but he's suggested going out. I dont know what to say. Theres an element of other peoples opinions influencing me but not too much. Sometimes i think i just dont want to, other times i think how shallow and horrible i must be.
2006-07-14 10:18:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Physical attraction will always fade, and sometimes, someone becomes more attractive the more you know them, so you might be losing out on someone you could really have a great relationship with if you let that stop you. I wasn't especially attracted to my husband when we first met, but we've been married for almost 10 years now and I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.
2006-07-14 10:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A guy shouldn't have to look like Brad Pitt to get considered for a date. I've found that sometimes, once you get to know someone a little more, their personality and intelligence make them look more attractive (I've also found that sometimes the so-called hot guys are dumb or mean or a combination of both). If he's nice, why not give him a chance? It's just a date, not marriage vows, so go out and have a nice time and see if you have anything in common. You might be pleasantly surprised, and if not, at the very least you'll be able to determine if you'd like to see him for another date. Good luck!
2006-07-14 17:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the same thing 17 months ago and after two dates had to tell him no physical attraction but great guy! we settled for friendship and platonic at that and now 17 months later I have seen what a wonderful person he is and how truly unique he is and have fallen in love and guess what I blew it, he told me he had been in love with me at one point but had to put those feelings away as I had made it so clear, he says we will always be friends but I lost a great man who I know would have made me the happiest woman alive, I always used to stick to the "chemistry" with other guys and that always wore thin but this man is like WOW, so try it .... could be the best thing you ever did! I could kick myself now I KNOW I will never find someone like this and I am a grown woman (smile)
2006-07-14 17:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by demi j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not horrible he has a great personality and that's it for u if ur not attracted to him then there is no point in going out with him and don't let other people influence u
2006-07-14 17:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by denise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go out with him, I used to not date guys that I wasn't physicaly attracted too and then I did and I've been with him for five years now, and now I don't think anyone is more attractive.
Even if it doesn't work out you may at least make a new friend and won a free date out of it
2006-07-14 17:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt care for others opinion about someone, and you should just go out with him as a friend and see how things go from there. Make sure you tell him that you guys are just friends.
2006-07-14 17:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I once dated a "goofy looking guy" and he ended up being wonderful in bed. What a shocker. Give it a shot. (but dont let him get close too soon) He might turn out to be a hottie underneath.
2006-07-14 17:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save the drama for ur momma. Just flip a coin.
2006-07-14 17:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by jack f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try... If you enjoy yourself, then result - a new friend if nothing else...
If you hate it, move onto some other guy in the pub/bar/club... ;)
2006-07-14 17:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance;) you never know...people can be surprising when its just the 2 of you!
2006-07-14 18:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by David K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋