Can anyone help??

Question

How do you tell your family especially your mom that you dont need to see a counselor? How do you get them to realize that your fine and happy??

I'm 22....I recently got out of a abusive relationship about 6 months ago...plus the whole Hurricane Katrina disaster...I was in it...not in NO but close enough plus in the same house with the abuser with no a/c or anything else to do but sit there and have him ***** at me. I also am still unemployed too but I'm working on that.

Answer 1

There is no other way to let them know, really, just tell your mother straight out. If she gets snappy or upset about it, just tell her that you have the right to stop seeing a counselor. You don't have to talk with someone if you don't want to. If your mother somehow forces you to go, then just sit in the office or where you see your counsellor and say "I have no problems to talk about." After a while, the counsellor will say "You don't need to come here anymore." and they can stop appoinments. It's happened with me before. You have the right to stand up and say NO. You decide what's best for yourself.

Answer 2

Good luck...I have been trying to indicate this for years to my Mom. I think it is just a nurturing, caring, genuine concern...but my Mom is an over-controlling, arrogant, woman..anyway that's what the last councilor I went and saw at 13 had to say. I have not been back to a councilor yet..so maybe you should go and take her with you...she may need it more than you do !

Answer 3

Sounds like a pretty one-sided view of the situation to me.

Nobody hauls their child off to a counsellor (what type of counsellor?) without provocation. Also, only someone who cares deeply about another person would be involved in trying to solve problems with them.

But again, without knowing what you're to be counselled FOR, it's hard to comment further.

Answer 4

They are seeking a counselor because they are not convinced you are fine and happy. You are unlikely to convince them otherwise unless you see the counselor so, unless you are trying to hide your feeling from everyone, including yourself, see the counselor. Most counselors have had their teeth removed and they rarely bite.

Answer 5

If your an adult just say so. Just stick to your guns. Sometimes it's the people around you that really need the help cause they can't "deal". However going to see someone, even if your ok, can't hurt. It's a great sounding board to how much your family sucks lol.

Answer 6

Look at it this way...counselling certainly isn't going to hurt you, so go ahead and go and try to look at it as an opportunity to get to know yourself a little better, as opposed to something to make you happy. Changing your outlook on it may just be the key to making your Mom know you are fine, and you may learn a little something along the way.

Answer 7

I was sent to a counsler against my will and you know of course that didn't work. Hang in there, whatever the problem is they think you need couseling over it'll get better. Tell them over and over how you feel and maybe it'll sink in. If not go to couseling. It won't hurt and they will think they helped. That'll at least get them off your back.

Answer 8

Maybe you should have a heart to heart talk with her, be really honest to her about the issue you have and tell her that you know how she really care for you but also convince her that your life is okay and she's just worrying too much about you...

Answer 9

I can't give you advise because I don't know your the situation.

But the only way you can show them is that show them wrong and that you are perfectly fine, but for that you have to proof yourself first. But remeber that no one knows you better then your parents. They just want what is best for you, because they love you.

Answer 10

Just go and then let them see that you are willing to do what they want. That will make them happy. Your counselor (if they are legit) will know that you are fine and healthy and happy and they will let your parents know.