Should I accept the fact that the older guys I date want sex from me and nothing more?

Question

I am 18, and I only date guys in their mid 20s to late 30s,because they are usually more mature, but they mostly want sex,is it just the age difference or are all guys like this regardless of age?

I'm not givin money for sex or anything like that.

Answer 1

then you must be pretty. mostly guys change their behaviour with differennt dates.hot ones like you make them want for sex.those little beautiful ones makes them to make out with them. and ugly ladies makes guys spit into their faces. trust me . i am 23 and
ps- you are hot

Answer 2

Ok, first off NO you should not accept this. If the guys only want sex than they are NOT mature...doesnt matter if they are in their late 20's or 30 or even older. Mature guys want the whole package. Don't sell yourself short. There are guys your age with good intentions who don't just want to hit it and quit it. Take care of yourself, too many guys will take the advantage to hook up with a young girl you will regret it later. Why do you think they are so mature? Beause they have jobs and pay bills? Honey lots of people do that...murderers do that. Try judging a guy by how he treats you and not his age...if a guy only wants sex, that is not a good way to treat a girl. It means he thinks of you as an object, a play thing and not as a human who deserves someone to care about them and not walk all over them. Do not let guys do this, do not accept it...strive for more, way more. If anyone on here tells you go for it if you want, they do not realize that you are being used, Think of it this way...if you had a daughter would you let her be used by men for sex? I hope not.

Answer 3

I'm afraid most guys are like this. But more so for men in that age range. They are in their sexual prime from 18-25. And most times being "mature" means having a mature relationship, and that involves sex. HOWEVER, be concerned about the "accepting the "fact" that they want sex and nothing more". If a man, whatever age, wants ONLY sex from you, that is not a date or relationship. It's a booty call. And you don't have to accept that. If they want to date you, they will wait until you are ready for sex. But keep in mind, a 30 year old man has has plenty of sex by then, waiting for some little girl of 18 to decide when she wants to give it up, might not be high on his agenda. Pick and choose your mates carefully, regardless of their age. It's your body, you can give or not give it to whomever you want, but don't ever feel obligated to do so. In fact, why not save it for the one who actually puts a ring on your finger and marries you? Then you KNOW he deserves it.

Good luck.

Answer 4

No, but you should stop dating guys so much older than you are. What do you have in common with someone nearly twice your age? I have shirts older than you are (I'm 42), and I wouldn't dream of dating a woman even 10 years younger than me because we'd have very little to talk about.

You're also dating the wrong kind of guys, because not all guys are just in it for the sex. Many are, and most will want to have sex with you, of course, but lots of guys will want to get to know you for who you are instead of what you look like. You say these guys are more mature, but it doesn't sound like it. If all they want is sex, they sound like overgrown frat boys. You can find 18 year old guys who are more mature than the guys you're hooking up with.

Try not sleeping with a guy on the first few dates and if he sticks around, he might be worth your time. If he gets lost because you won't put out on the first (or second or third or fourth) date, you'll know all you need to know about him.

Answer 5

Not all guys want *simply* sex. Anyone that tells you this is cynical. The simple truth however is that most men that age have had sex and so will expect it sooner or later. That being said, some men will want a genuine connection before sleeping with you, and both of you will reap the benefits. Don't give in so easily, they wont be grateful and such rash decisions lead only to insatiable pleasure-seeking that never ends and is only self-defeating. Men don't respect girls that are "easy"; we may be attracted but that attraction fades just as living in Paris will not always be as exciting as visiting Paris. All men enjoy sex, though for each the priority is slightly different. It is very dependent on the guy and the circumstances. If you're meeting guys at parties, you can expect them to be looking primarily for sex.

Answer 6

Let me answer your question with a question. What other than sex can an 18 year old girl offer a man in his 20's or 30's? Now you may be mature for your age, but you are only 18. A man in his late 20s has likely gone to college, perhaps travelled, and dated several women--enough to know what he wants and doesn't want. And the same man will have nothing (socially) in common with an 18yo, other than something physical.

So ask yourself, "Why am I chasing older men?" Is it to fill some void you have in your family life? Perhaps as a surrogate for a broken or nonexistent relationship with your father? I'm not casting aspersions on you, just hopefully helping you to realize that the problem is not with them. (They're only men, pervy men who want to prey upon an 18yo girl's insecurities and desire to live beyond her years.) The problem may be with why you feel the need to act like an adult way before your time.

Just a thought.

Answer 7

Oh, my goodness. I didn't know a single human being could be this stupid.

Why are you dating guys that much older than you anyway? I'm assuming it's for the SEX! If you don't find the 18 year old boys to be mature, what makes you think older men find 18 year old girls mature?

That's the most disgusting question I've ever read on here, I think.

Answer 8

ALL GUYS- for sure want sex primarily. But it's the older guys who think they can take advantage of you because you're younger. When you get to college, you'll meet some more mature guys you're age. Not a lot, but at least more than high school. And don't date 30 years olds! Yuck!

Answer 9

No not all guys are like that, but they may have a higher sex drive then you are ready for. Try meeting these older men somewhere else, church, a group, some club, somewhere where you two have other interests to share right away. Build from there and the sex wont be quite as big an issue.

Answer 10

All men - no matter what age - only want sex. That's not to say that all men are bad, it's just hardwired into their DNA, from the beginning of time they have been "programmed" to conquer and procreate with every woman they find. It's not even their fault.

If your looking for something more substantial than just a booty-call, hold out - if they move on without an effort, then you didn't want him anyway, if he sticks around to check out the special Goddess that you really are - then he's worth a little nookie - that's when you blow his mind in bed - unfortunately that's what keeps 'em coming back for more...

Answer 11

Hmmm lets see Im older and I don't want anything like that from someone Im dating that is younger but then again I wouldn't date an 18 year old its not right so the dudes youre picking are most likely immature idiots.
or you have nothing in common with them since they are older so they just want to do you.
try dating someone closer to your own age - you'll probably be much happier
and no not all guys are like that, I am older then my fiance by 4 years and we have a blast together and not just in the sack in living we have fun and enjoy eachother. good luck finding that one guy