What about guys who emphasize kissing, touching and public displays of affection?

Question

I'm not talking about a guy that you are dating and have a romantic interest in , I mean guys that mention this in their personals ad. I think that all these things are important too and there isn't anything wrong with wanting them but it just seems a little too forward when dealing with a stranger. I get the impression when a guy puts a lot of this into his ad, that he is looking to get physical really quick and that is his main goal. I have my agendas to in what I want in a relationship but if I put alot of it in my ad, I am told it would scare guys a way. I am looking for marriage and committment but I don't fill my ad full of it because it would seem to forward with a stranger and I feel that guys that emphasize the physical side of a relationship are really just looking for some quick action without any real committment. Nothing wrong with kissing and hugging and stuff but it leads to other things too quickly

I'm not afraid of affection and stuff but I feel a little uncomfortable discussing it with a guy I haven't even met because I don't even know if I am even attracted to him.

Answer 1

it sound like you fear effection. scared of relationship. as long as it fits for you. since everyone has needs and wants. females are mental and guy are into physical side of a relationship, that is known and both have to be in place in a relationship

Answer 2

I haven't seen the ads you talk about so I am just guessing here, but I have some experience being a "guy"...maybe they say these things because the stereotype of men is that men are unemotional and uncommunicative. So perhaps these guys are trying to say that they're not like that, they're not afraid to be affectionate, etc.