Is he a freak?

Question

I am curious, I went on a first date with a cute guy from out of town. We had a good date over drinks, mutual hand brushes, good conversation but no sexual flirting,etc. After the date, I stood outside my house waiting for him to leave, but he just kept standing around so I invited him in to talk. He then asked to sleep on my floor for a few hours, because he had been drinking and was tired?! He never made a move on me sexually. Was he trying to get me into bed?? or is he just weird?

He wasn't homeless, I know at least that much, and he never called me again after that date. Thanks so much for all the great answers!

Also, I didn't want to sleep with him. He made me uncomfortable by asking to sleep in my house. I don't think he was a freak by not wanting to sleep with me, I've just never had someone want to sleep on my floor on a first date. I know that I made an error in judgment by letting him in the house in the first place.

Answer 1

It is a bit odd for someone to ask to sleep on your floor after the first date. Perhaps he was just being cautious as he was drunk and didn't want to drive. Not a good condition to be in after a first date. I think he used poor judgement there.

It is up to you. Depending on how uncomfortable he made you feel you could go out with him again. This is the only way to know for sure that you are both compatible. I recommend that you meet him again for drinks, but this time you both drive to the meeting point separately. Don't ask him to pick you up and drop you off at home.

Another thing you could do before going out with him again is ask him why he did that. As for the flirting, it was your first date. Sometimes it takes people a little time to open up.

Answer 2

If he didn't make a move on you sexually, it means he wasn't trying to get you into bed - clear! I think he is okay since he didn't make a move beyond your will... he may have thought of it, but since you gave no signals, nothing happened.

I think he is okay, don't call him a freak. Maybe he wants IT badly, but he respects you a lot, so... no, he isn't a freak.
He must have been very happy hanging around you there, sleeping on your floor... no?
:-)

I would give him another chance if I like him!
It is up to you to decide when the time for sexual flirting has arrived in this story - consider it secured that he respects you whatever you decide! And that is the way it should go, no?

Answer 3

Alot of guys arent the sex crazed amniacs that some girls make them out to be. I will never sleep with a girl on the first date...I find that it makes you come off as very desperate and that you arent serious about a relationship. If you dont have to work for it, wheres the fun and incredible sensation when it actually does happen. Besides sex with someone on the first date is not really love making, its more like screwing. There are no feelings being exchanged, its simply physical.
He probably really likes you and wants to start something,not just throw it all away and have you possibly not like him for who he is and judge him simply on his sexual performance. It may ahve actually been a sign of respect................

Answer 4

He probably wanted you to make the first move because he is a shy guy which is not going to get him anywhere. He though that by putting himself in the responsible guy too drunk to drive mode he would make himselfe available for you to make the move, which we all know it doesn't work that way. Most of the time. See if he grows some B*ls nex time, if you think he's worth it(ie you Like him) and if that's the case, try making a move on him. If he is a scaredy cat, he will thank you for it.

Answer 5

I'm not weird. I was trying to be a gentleman who obeys the law. I was just drunk and wanted to sleep it off. The reason I didn't try and get at you is because I like you and I thought having relations on the first date would ruin what we have going for ourselves. How about that 2nd date?

Answer 6

I'd say he was a compasionate man, a gentleman, who did not want to do anything to upset you and did not want to kill anyone or be put in jail for DWI... you should have asked him to marry you...

I don't sleep with women on the first date... out of respect for both of us... I may be in love with you from first siight but would not make a move on the first date... other than maybe a goodnight kiss...

Answer 7

That is a good question. It could have been either one since he is a guy. I would probably say that it was both. He was most likely a little drunk and didn't want himself getting hurt and if you two had a good time on your date and you tried to throw it out there that you wanted to sleep with him he had a good reason by being drunk.

Answer 8

He might have been trying to see if it could go farther, but it could also be t5hat he was loaded and had a long drive to get home. DWI is not cool and I would sleep in the car before I went for a drunken drive.

Answer 9

ask him. Thats all you have to do to get the right answer (maybe not the real one though). Why do you ask people on here anyway? All we're going to do is affirm what you already think. I don't think its very fair to him.

You had a nice time, ask him what he thought about it? then, ask what his intentions are. its not that hard. I don't mean to sound like a jerk....you just need to be fair to him. if he turns out to be a freak? Then do what you need to, but until then, don't make assumptions... Good luck.

Answer 10

He was a guy who figured he should sleep it off rather than drive. He may have hoped for a sexual opportunity but didn't force the issue. He sounds normal.