my son is 4 years old and i cant potty train him is this normal ?

Question

i have tried to train him but all he does is just sit there and waits for a diaper .......he wont pee untill i put a diaper on him what can i do?

Answer 1

I wouldn't concern myself with 'Normal or not?'. Each child is different. But, yes, it's time to stop with the diapers. get rid of all of them, and be prepared to wash lots of clothes. Trust me, he won't like having wet underwear.

Answer 2

I feel for you. I am a year behind you and ready to lose my mind! My 3 year old will poop when I leave the room for 20 seconds (after hours of no diaper or talking about it) and then proceed to tell me all about it and how he has a poopy diaper and ewww mommy, it's yucky, we should go in the potty.

It's like he gets it but doesn't want to do it.

I read the other day about how you can take the dirty diaper after they go and change them on the potty - kind of giving them the full picture of what you expect from them and dropping the poop into the potty from the dirty diaper. I tried it 2x and what I found was my son got excited about it but because I send him to daycare, it got lost in translation during the week because they don't really push the training thing. I'm going to keep him home full time come September and try again after our second child is born.

My next step is going to also be those get cold when you pee diapers...feel and learn I think they are called. If that doesn't work, I am going to resort to good old fashioned cloth diapers and let the discomfort help do the job. Maybe this will work for you.

Good luck, I really feel your fusteration!

Answer 3

Have you considered talking to your health visitor over this problem? Also have a chat to him over why he won't use the potty. Maybe something has scared him or he's worried and needs a little reassurance.

You could encourage him by putting in training pants rather than nappies/diapers to give him the impression that he's wearing proper underwear instead of 'baby' underwear. You should also buy some stickers and make an awards chart then make it this huge game for him to do the toilet like a 'big boy'. Treat him as if he's achieved World Peace when he does succeed.

Answer 4

Four years old seems old to be starting to potty train, but whatever. What I would do is buy him lots of undies and just put undies on him right when he gets up in the morning and then take him to the potty every 15-30 minutes and tell him when he puts pee in the potty he can have an M&M or whatever. Some little candy he really likes. It's really hard at first, but he seriously is going to have issues if he is still not potty trained when he goes to school. Good luck!

Answer 5

Yes....It is normal....im in the process of of potty training my son.

There are a few things you can do that have worked for me. But remember Potty training kids is all by trial and error...and a lot of patience.

You can put him in BIG BOY undies, granted he will pee thru them, but he wont like the pee getting on him so chances are he will do it a few times and then get the idea.

Sit him on his potty and give him a book to read, let him sit ther for 5 or 10 min, and when he finally pee's act like the cutest famous man just proposed to you, and give him bunches of rewards.

When he does pee in his diaper, dont get mad at him ( not saying you do ) but be dissapointed...Oh Mikey ( my son ) we dont pee pee in there....it's not good, we pee pee in a potty....and then take him and sit him on the potty.

Its a lot like house training a puppy lol just dont rub his nose in it lol.

Answer 6

My daughter is autistic and didn't potty train until she was 4, because we couldn't get her to understand. However, once we found the right way, it took no time at all.

What we did was force her to wear regular underwear (with a plastic covering so she didn't make a mess on the carpet). When she peed, she was forced to feel uncomfortable with the mess in her pants (don't worry--they will eventually have to pee because it is too painful to hold it in). When we did catch her peeing in the underwear, we rushed her to the potty, even if she was already done (to associate the pee with potty).

For awhile she did whine for us to put a diaper/pull-up on her,(don't use the pull-ups unless they have that feel and learn liner, because it will just absorb the wetness and he will not feel the discomfort)--but we didn't give in. Finally, she just accepted that she has to pee on the potty or feel uncomfortable with it in her pants. Hope this helps!

Answer 7

Talk to him--he's 4 and will understand. Also, take all the diapers away. Buy him big-kid underwear, and then be prepared to wash it often. It's much more uncomfortable to sit in your pee in underwear than in a diaper. Also, try putting cheerios or froot loops in the toilet and let him use them as targets. Give him treats every time he goes in the potty and not in his pants.

Answer 8

This worked for all three of my kids, but maybe I got lucky... I bought a gumball machine and sat it on the back of the toilet. Each time they used the potty they got a coin to get a gumball out of the machine. It also helped that sometimes I let them run around without diapers so they were more conscious about when they peed. You'll have to wash a ton of little undies but it worked for me. Each time they tee'd in their undies I would tell them they didn't get a gumball that time because it wasn't in the potty... eventually it should kick in. Good luck!

Answer 9

You have to train yourself not to put a diaper on him. Like everyone else has said, he can't hold it forever. There will be accidents but don't take backward steps. Use real underwear, not the diaper/training pants, he will just use them as diapers.

Answer 10

I had the same promblem with my son he was 3. Have you tried pull-ups yet. There are different types of pull-ups like wetness liners. Try to get the rubber pants that you can put over top of regualr underwear, they are easier to clean if he mess in htem they also help him feel like a big boy. If his father is involved ask him to take him to the bathroom with him sometimes. What ever you do you need to be consistent w/ the potty training.

Answer 11

My son is 4 and we put cheerios for him to aim at. And when he finally got used to that we made a HUGE deal out of it. Like an ice cream party and kept saying over and over how great it was that he was a big boy now. He still needs diapers at night sometimes.