still get him to remain friends with me without leading him on or making him feel any worse--- only real suggestions please no time for dorky wise cracks(ERS) who just want points
2006-07-14 08:25:49 · 30 answers · asked by laffinnica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's probably best to keep your distance for a while, let him know you care for him as a friend (if you really do) but give him is space and time to get over this infatuation with you. From my own experience, I know that if you remain friends with him he's only going to look at it as a chance for you to fall in love with him and you'll begin to get frustrated with him and end up hating him.
2006-07-14 08:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well pretty much honesty is the only way to get through that. At least you were honest with him by telling him you didn't feel the same way. I've been in that situation before. If he feels like he can't be your friend he'll probably tell you this. Hopefully anyway. I would just be honest and tell him that you are so sorry that you don't feel the same way and that you really care about him as a person and don't want to lose his friendship. I know for guys that's like a stab to the heart, but if it's honesty then I've been told it's what they would rather hear. Maybe a guy has a better perspective on it for you, but I kept my friend through being honest.
2006-07-14 08:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the reality here is that you're the dork. Second, once you break something no matter what or how you do to put the pieces back together, it will not work the same. So as of now, you've totally lost his trust in you. Second, all you can do is apoligize for being a dork, and give him a good option to make it up to him...don't be surprised if he doesn't accept your apology or doesn't want to have anything to do with you any longer.
2006-07-14 08:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, all relationships are bound to break either voluntarily or by fate. If in case you feel responsible for him being hurt, take a chance to clear him of the fact that you are not ready for his proposal of love. Any one can love any body in this world. It is not a relationship. It is a one way traffic. But to be friends is a relationship that requires the permission of the other person. Once agreed they need to make further agreements to break too.. like in marriage. So, better let him love you and you too can love him without any bondage. In fact you love him too and yet you do not want to be bounded by that feeling to him. It is OK. and just let it be and free from the incidents of hurt and insults.
Love can happen only in a state of freedom. Just let go of ur hurt feelings and allow him to love you as much as you care for him That's all. All the Best.
2006-07-14 08:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Vishwa Pratibh G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant, he will forever think you are a cruel heartless person. You screwed that friendship up big time.
In the future remember to set the rules of the friendship at the onset, and tell the guy right away you do not like him as more than a friend.
Chicks, they only think about other peoples feelings after they have already crushed them.
2006-07-14 08:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by jedi1212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there.. well you are not to blame if you dunt really liked him .. well you just didnt... look he is really hearbroken right now and i think its not a really good time to come up with the "friends" thing. He probably really liked you and what hes doing right now is trying to keep his distance because he just doesnt want to be hurt and wants to gain control of his feelings when he approches you. I think you should give him time however, always say hello here and there ask him how hes doing and act as friends.. as you want to be with him. Dont talk to him about other guys cuz thats the worse you can do. Stay stable and let him know that you care for him but you are just not really looking for a relationship right now. However i ll tell you a lil story of mine. I didnt really like my bf before. Is it because you are not attracted to him?. well i ll tell you this my bf is nothing of what i will go out with but he was a really nice guy but most of all he was always there for me. So its not mostly about going out with the ones you are attracted to. Its always good to try new things. Today i am in love with my boyfriend and it took me 3 months into the relationship to really "feel it". But i am glad i gave him the change cuz right now i just cant imagine myself living without him. ITs not all about the looks girl. And the funniest thing is that I really see my bf as the hottest guy compare to the type i will usually would ve gone for .. funny HUH?> so think about it.
2006-07-14 08:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must create a little space between you two for alittle while. Then maybe later you two can work on be just friends. But if you continue to call him and hang out with him right now. It may send a mixed message to him, even if you tell him every day, all day that you just want to be friends. He may still look at it as she still calls and we still hang out maybe she wants more than friendship. He is going to hang on the hope that it could be more.
2006-07-14 08:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by loveNromance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my frnd.
u should give a bit time n be very normal with him.behave normally n easy with him
tell him in a good manner that u want him with u always n always as a very good n careing frnd.
evry thing will become ok with time.spend some time with him.jst dnt talk bout this topic of love with him again as it would hurt his feelings.
go togther to see some movies.
mostof all dnt let him feel that now ur taking or showing more concern to him as then he will feel as if he is defeated.
jst be haapy with him n normal with him
tell him that u both can be jst good frnds not moren then that.say him that u r there for him in the times of need always.
2006-07-14 08:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by shray_malik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't remain friends with him for awhile. He has to get over the heartbreak and be to a point where he isn't in love with you and doesn't want to make things work, otherwise he is going to misread everything. Just give him time and space.
2006-07-14 08:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You hurt him and the last thing he wants is to be friends. Most guys don't believe in friends after a relationship especially when you screw them over. Let him be. If he decides he's ready to be friends then that's cool. If not, move on with your life and be careful not to lead on the next person you date.
2006-07-14 08:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋