What do you think about spanking as a form of discipline for children?

Answer 1

As long as a parent is not leaving marks that last longer than 30-60 minutes, then I see nothing wrong with spanking. I do not agree with this new age crap about sitting a child down and calmly discusing behavior with them like they are an adult. I got spankings when I was a kid and it didn't cause any permenant damage. Too many kids now days could benefit from a good spanking.

Answer 2

Well first of all in general I don't see spanking as a form of abuse. I do believe, however, that it is possible for some parents or guardians to go "overboard" and turn discipline into abuse. If the parent has good reason to spank the child and the child does not respond to other forms of discipline, then it may be a good idea to spank the child. All children are different and may not respond equally to spanking, some may be very responsive and behave well at even the threat of a spanking and others may never behave even if the parent spanked them until they bled. In my opinion parents should first and foremost have self-control when spanking, and secondly they should take into account the effect it will have on the child, both positively and negatively.

Answer 3

I think it's a short cut. I think it's ineffective.

My daughter did a study for a leading University. They had two groups of little ones. They had a room full of knick-knacks and "no-no's". Group "A" had their hand lightly slapped when they went to play with the stuff. Group "B" was verbally told "no" and redirected. After a while, they put good toys and educational things in the room with the knick-knacks and "no-no's". Group "A", who had their hands slapped, refrained from touching ANYTHING at all...even the "good" things. Group "B", who were told "no" and verbally redirected, didn't touch the bad things but played and interacted with the toys and educational items.

I'd rather my child be part of Group "B" who seeks out and interacts with things but learns because their parents took the time to TEACH rather than hit like they were a herd of dumb cattle.

Used to be that kids were paddled or "popped" at school for problems. If given a choice between detention and "pops" at school, most kinds chose the "pops". If it were such an effective method of discipline, why would someone choose it? Because it's fast, easy and over and done with. No "real" consequences.

I pity the people who think fear is respect. I'd rather my child do the right thing because it's the right thing to do...not because they fear that their parent is going to slap/spank/whatever them. When they are older and out on their own, I'm not going to be there to threaten or spank them. They are going to have to make good choices USING THEIR BRAIN.

Kids aren't dumb.

Answer 4

I think that sometimes it is necessary to get the point across, I used to pop my son...not so much spanking. He is one of those children that nothing gets through to him or effects him. I used to get spanked and with a paddle and I only had that happen three times...I didn't want to get spanked again.

I hate it when people get all upset when people spank their kids...I never used anything but my hand so I can control the spanking and know that I'm not beating them. Not once have I left a mark and got the point across and it was for the more serious situations.

Answer 5

The Bible addresses this, Proverbs chapter 13 and verse 24 says," The one holding back his rod is hating his son, but the one loving him is he that does look for him with discipline." Proverbs 23:13," Do not hold back discipline from the boy." Proverbs 22:15," ...rod of discipline will remove foolishness."

The main thing is what is the motive, do you wait until you're so mad and then spank. Or is it out of love for the child. I sit down with my son and talk to him, and ask him to tell me why he's getting the spanking and what could he have done to not get one. My husband and I were raised with spankings, simple open handed swats on the butt or hand. And only when they were absolutely called for.

Answer 6

I think more kids today need a good spanking, just look around you at all the children yelling and hitting at their parents...then again, maybe it's the parents who could have used a good spanking years ago, such a shame.

Answer 7

It depends on the kid. Some kids behave if you take something they like away or ground them. Others, need something more effective to get the point across.
I`m not saying spanking with a belt or a paddle but a few smacks with your hand. Just enough to get his attention...

I really don`t get people who are against spanking. I`m guessing they never had to deal with one of those kids who are simply impossible...

Answer 8

I don't know,this is really getting into controversy, sometimes we need discipline, God guides us with discipline, and I believe children need it to, but as long as we are not doing it out of anger, because that is doing it for us, and not thier benefit, children need to learn problem solving more, I think if alot of our leaders learned that we wouldn't be blowing each other up all the time.

Answer 9

It's just another tool parents could use. Each situation and each kid need his own discipline. If you spank you must do it in a calm way and explain the kid why he will get it.

Answer 10

It's a great thing...use it! Time outs are a joke..kids sit all day what good is sitting in the corner going to do? Absolutely nothing. Kids who are put in time out are unruly when they are older and they walk all over their parents. Kids need to be spanked. It hurts for a second and it gets their attention which is what they need.