I've met this wonderful, handsome, stable man on the internet..he's 20 years older then me..and would take care of me for the rest of my life... but he lives across the country...what should I do?
2006-07-14 07:58:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok...in response to the answers I've already gotten... this guy has offered to fly out here to meet me many times.. but I've held him off so I could be sure I was doing the right thing...we talk on the phone atleast 3 hours a day...
2006-07-14 08:07:01 · update #1
It is possible to fall in love with someone you haven't met - because love is an emotion and not based on physical features (at least it shouldn't be). Before up and moving to another part of the country you should probably meet this guy and see if you both click in person the way you click with eachother on line.
Since you mentioned this guy has money and would take care of you, why not ask him to come out to meet you. You need to see how you are together before you move in with him, and also make sure you are allowing enough time for the "dating" period. If you've only know this guy for a couple months you might consider waiting a bit longer.
2006-07-14 08:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not normal and it's not love. You don't even know if this person is a man or woman, let alone how old they are and that they will "take care of you for the rest of your life."
Time to grow up. Get away from your computer and go out and join the real world.
2006-07-14 08:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tread with care. You're always hearing all kinds of horror stories about people meeting people on the net. My best friend met an older guy this way. She went to be with him, they got a place together but this "job" of his took him away weekdays I think it was. He asked her to marry him. She said yes. He bought her a ring, next thing you know (I don't know how)this other woman started emailing her to leave her fiance alone.He was only using my friend to make the other girl jealous. Well he ended up marrying this other woman on the very day he was suppose to marry my friend. So this is why I say tread very carefully.
2006-07-14 08:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by whtecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not love just lust... take your time and think. You hav never met this guy, what do you think he looks like? He may not be the man in your dreams..besides there's no guarantee that he'll like you. Actually you'll get over this soon..coz it's just the lust you know.. Don't go after his sweet words..You need to meet real people...Forget this guy and get a life..
2006-07-14 08:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Alzin Dorain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Signs To Look Out For
If you are in, or are interested in being in, an online relationship, it is important to know what things to look out for so you don't get hurt -- physically or emotionally. You'll notice many people who can re-tale every horrible incident that happens in online relationships, rest assured you won't find that here. The advice you'll find below is meant for you to use as a way to help protect yourself from getting hurt. The tips are mostly common sense, but sometimes when it comes to love, it's good to have it written down for reference.
Person is too secretive.
This can be as simple as the person is insecure with letting out information about themselves, to the person being married or living with someone else.
Person is often flirting with other people online.
Just as in real life you can find "players" online. Watch how your online interest interacts with others. You'll learn more about them, as well as be able to spot any unusual interests.
Person wants too much information about you right away.
Unless you are 100% completely comfortable about this person, don't give away any personal information. Even then, it is a good idea to keep important information to yourself.
Person seems only interested in cyber or phone sex.
Unless this is something you are interested in, this relationship is probably not going very far.
After trust has been established, person will only give you a pager or cell phone number, but not a home number.
This again could just be precautionary, but again, it could indicate a cheating heart.
After enough time has developed, person is adamant about not meeting in person.
The reason for this could range from the person hiding something about their physical self, their lifestyle, other romantic involvement's, or just protecting themselves.
Person wants you to move to local area or in with them after only one or two meetings.
While my husband and I broke this rule, I strongly urge other couples to really get to know each other in person. It worked out well for me, but if follow this advice you will find yourself more confident about your choices if you really take the time to know them in person before deciding to make the big traveling step.
You find person posting other personal ads online.
An obvious heartbreak!
Person keeps e-mails from other people hidden or a secret.
Something to keep an eye out for. Any relationship that begins or is involved in secrecy has it's days numbered.
Person asks for money or other help.
You may feel comfortable with this, but it's not a good idea, especially if your just met them. Don't open yourself to a potentially huge loss.
Person won't let your mail cards or other gifts to home address.
This is also another sign of a possible romantic interest living with them. Take the extra precautions to make sure your online interest is not already involved with someone.
Every tip is dependent upon your instincts. What is good for one person may not be good for the next. Use your head, and your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, question it and resolve it quickly. You may discover it was a silly case of doubt, but you may also discover it wasn't!
2006-07-14 16:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by @ngёL♥PÏήK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I can personally say that it is normal.I stay in greenvill and fell for a guy in Anderson that i met on myspace. I've seen him but he hasn't seen me and that puts a big hold on out relationship. So all i can say is that girl if he is 20 years older than you you better let that go. I done it before and it hurts fallen in love with someone you cant see every day. Please just listen to me. I have had it all ready.
2006-07-14 08:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by Princesse T. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well before falling to much in love i would look a little bit more into the situation. you know how all this stuff about people on the internet getting killed, raped, all sorts of stuff i would make sure you really knew this person he may just be all fake thats the scary thing about love on the computer!!!
2006-07-14 08:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsey Leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't fall in love with somone you have never met. You like the whole idea of the lifestyle he has told you about. But how do you know if he is telling the truth?
2006-07-14 08:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by deekev1997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal. You've fallen in "infatuation." The real deal could be totally different if you met up with him. Be careful.
2006-07-14 08:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen degrassi? in one episode one of the characters has an internet boyfriend. not so good! she goes to meet him and luckily she's saved before he does who knows what to her. It's not safe-anyone can put photos of other people on there. you're on your way to getting raped don't meet him if he says he's coming to ur town!!!
2006-07-14 08:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by sofiaharriett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋