i FEEL like i love him but he treats me like $hit?

Question

I love my boyfriend but i dont think he deserves me i kno he loves me 4 sure nd i kno i love him 2 but my x treats me a lot better but me and my current boyfriend have been dating 4 2 years im juz affraid i wont love another i really like my x we get along real well but hes a year younger nd doesnt have much going 4 him at all
nd i want a mixture of both i want sum1 who treats me with respect sum1 who will make me laugh at least ok looking sweet tough wit his sensitive moments has something going 4 there life
trustworthyness is a big 1 loveable not younger than me juz a lil older WAT THE HELL DO I DO!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

LIKE TUPAC SAID "I know they like to beat ya down a lot
When you come around the block brothas clown a lot
But please don't cry, dry your eyes, never let up
Forgive but don't forget, girl keep your head up
And when he tells you you ain't nuttin don't believe him
And if he can't learn to love you you should leave him
Cause sista you don't need him..."-tUPAC SHAKUR KEEP YA HEAD UP

Answer 2

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A man can love you, but can be missing the element of RESPECT, in the relationship. If he's treating you like crap, then stand up for yourself. If he doesn't back off, and still treats you poorly, then...

obviously he's not the man you tell about above that you dream of, with all the good points.
DATING is all about testing the waters. When you find that the two of you are not suited to each other, then it is time to make your needs known clearly, and get that compromise working; or MOVE - ON.

There is a Right one out there for you.
and when you find him, you will love him like you've never loved before.

Don't give up the effort, or the OPTION to look for the Right one.

I wish you love
stw
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Answer 3

I think you answered your own question! Neither of these guys is going to give you what you need right now so why waste your time. I would talk to your current boyfriend tell him what you need in the relationship and if he can't provide you with that then move on to find what you want. As for the Ex, why move back two steps when you should be moving forward.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

You said it yourself...you want something more... how about you dump this guy, and try to figure out exactly what you want... once you have it figured out then I recommend you try to meet people who are interested in the same type of relationship. I met my boyfriend on the net and we have been happy for almost 6 years now...so why don't you try to see what's out there. Not to mention some older guys are more stable, and I think that is important.

Answer 5

What ur feeling is not love, its lust. You say he treats you like ****, and I dont believe you can truly love anyone like that. Its probably just good sex, and maybe he looks good. That ain't love, so stop confusing things.

Just come to grips, you got a hot boy toy, nothing more. Either dump him or use him for sex. But dont say ur in love.

Answer 6

It's not worth wasting your time, energy or thoughts on anyone who doesn't make you feel great. Love isn't supposed to hurt. Follow your heart, truly look inside yourself. There is nothing more you can do.

Answer 7

Leave. This is a dead end relationship, and you are going to go through hell if you marry the bum. Think about it this way- what would happen if you were to have kids? Would he willing to be a stay at home father? Would it be okay if you wore the pants and dictated finances? Will the abuse go from mental/emotional to physical?

If you are the least bit hazy on a decision to any of these questions as to what your role as the woman would be in the relationship, it's best to leave now.

I did not realize how bad off I was before- I was like this once. My fiance was always "joking", but they were comments taken seriously about my weight (during this relationship I lost 52lbs), height (I am a mere 5ft tall, he was 6ft 2- I ALWAYS wore platforms around him), appearance (I wore certain foundations because HE didn't like my freckles) and such because this was what HE wanted- I also paid for EVERYTHING, dinners, movies, furniture for HIS apartment, and drove him EVERYWHERE, and he never failed to let me forget he was never going to get his drivers license or a car, and it was a lot of gas going to see HIM because he never wanted to be with my family. He didn't like my freinds and told me to keep from seeing them. He also hated my sense of humor, how I like watching Dinsey cartoons and movies, how I hated horror flicks, could not stand gore/blood on TV, and slept with a stuffed dolphin. I had my stuffed dolphin since 1987, and slept with that longer then I knew this guy.

I stayed the night at his appartment once and left in tears because he called me immature that I was 19 years old and still slept with a "teddy bear". I still can't sleep without it, and I am 25, now. He called me the next day with "I'm sorry, I didn't mean it, but you can't bring 'that thing' back over here." I didn't, and I never got sleep without it.

He was also paranoid that I was "with" people behind his back and, not once, but over the course of our last year together, accused me of "loving" his younger brother, who is now as much as a deadbeat as his older brother. He never let this go, and segregated me from the rest of his family, and began to try to cut me from mine because they were trying to coax me out of the relationship. I took his side, not out of love, but in spite to my family. This "I'll show you" attitude I had put me in a real bad spot with my family, and my older sister's and mine relationship has yet to recover- I didn't listen to them, and she dispises me for that.

This is the perfect example of mental/emotional abuse. Plus, the fact he dropped out of high school and never expressed that he wanted to do something with his life should have been a big clue as to what I was in for. He lied to me saying he never had any kids even AFTER his ex, with whom together had a daughter confronted me and warned me about the guy. The only reason I know now that this really was his daughter was due to a dispute between the parents of the boyfreind and the ex about his insurance money, which was ultimately given to the daughter because of the "next of kin" laws and there was a parternity test involved.

It was not until he passed away from testicular cancer that I was SO glad I did not marry the guy. I still love him now, but I was niave and he was my first real commited relationship. However, I found a wonderful man that treats me like a princess and loves me for who I am instead of who he WANTS me to be. This wonderful man is now my husband, and hindsight being 20/20, I wouldn't know what to do if things were different and I was still with him. I sure would not be the outoing person I am today because he did not allow me to be that way.

Answer 8

drop that scum-bag if hes treating you like sh!t you do not need to settle for less their are pleanty of fish in the sea move on and if you still feel like you love and he love then maybe he'll relize that he needs to stop being an a$$ and treat you like queen to keep you

Answer 9

if anyone treats u like **** they shuld be put out of ur life. and if u wanted to go bak out wit ur x u'd haf to dump ur current (a year is small) because at leest he treets u right

Answer 10

If he loved you he wouldnt treat you like sh!t and just asking this questions proves that you know what you need to do!! Good lucK!