so I posted the question earlier about my daughter saying that someone is at school is toucbhing her privates....well I called the daycare and told the director what was going on.
well she said she would call me later....10 minutes later she calls me back saying that it could not possibly have happened at her facility.
SCREW that..I am getting a new daycare.
2006-07-14 07:26:41 · 29 answers · asked by cookies_n_cream0218 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You're definetly doing the right thing. It seems obvious that the director of the daycare would maintain that this could not have occured at her facility especially with no proof besides your daughter's words. It would ruin the whole business she runs. This time, I would suggest doing a little more research and digging around to find the perfect, safe daycare for your child. I would also suggest having her see a counselor for a while to deal with what was done to her.
2006-07-14 07:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Magical Pony Princess 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My daughter is 4 years old and very beautiful. These days you can trust no one. I have always told her from the time she could understand. It is not right for anyone to touch you in your private areas (we have our nicknames) I told her if anybody ever touches her in those places or asks, tell moma. About 3 months ago she came home from playing with neighbors, crying saying her private area burned. Knowing she is sensative to most soaps or when she doesn't wipe her well, I asked her about that. She said no, so I just had to ask. She told me the little boy- age 5 or 6- said she was his girlfriend and was trying to pull her panties over and touch her. The next day when she woke up, I asked again to see if she would give the same answer. She asked me if I was mad with her. Immediately I assured her I was not mad- I was glad she told me & always tell moma if someone tries that. I asked where was the adult supervision, she said the mother was sleeping in the other room. I went the next day and had a talk with the mother. We questioned the little boy- immediately he denied it. I told him what was told to me. A mother knows her child. Immediately the mother knew he was lying. She tore him up. She also has a daughter, not counting numerious neices that come around, too young to talk. Now, if she goes, I make sure that either the mother is up, or I am with her.
If the director is not going to look into it, she may be oblivious to what is going on, but she needs to pay more attention. Yes, you do need to find another daycare. Also talk to your child, do let her know that it's not ok for someone to touch her and there are people out to hurt children. Just make her aware that it's not ok for that to happen.
2006-07-14 15:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by christine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children do not lie about those things. I was a victim myself at a very young age. You need to at least make a police report of this. So if it happens to someone else it will be on file. You need to find a new daycare if you haven't already. If you continue to leave your child there you are contributing to the abuse. Go to the police. If your child is being molested God knows how many other children are.
2006-07-14 16:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, thats a good idea. The fact that the daycare provider wouldn't even acknowledge that there might be a problem shows you what kind of daycare it is. With something this serious you have the right to contact social services and report the daycare.
2006-07-14 14:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would call the police and make a report...you need to do more than just switch daycares. if there is someone there who touched your daughter, she probably isnt the only one who has been touched. i would also contact the other parents who take their children there and let them know. and being a daycare there has to be a department that hands out licenses that i would find and let them know. you need to do as much as you can to get to the bottom of this not only for your daughter, but for the other kids that may be victims also.
2006-07-14 17:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by sex_c_tink21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops and get a new daycare. if your daughter is saying that someone is touching her wear shes not to be touched than it is happening an has to STOP NOW.
mommy of 2
2006-07-15 01:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Heather W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the place investigated and a formal hearing to get to the bottom of the situation. Have your child checked at the hospital. And do not assume that a child won't lie about something like that. It has happened before and has ruined peoples lives. I see it all the time in my line of work.
2006-07-14 14:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by loilei1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The director did not take your concern seriously????!!??!! I would call the police immediately! She needs to know that if she doesn't investigate this situation, you will, and the police will involve the state licensing board for day cares and her job will be in danger. Like I said in my other post about this, I would not stop until I had answers! This infuriates me!
2006-07-14 14:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police! If you believe that your daughter is being truthful (and you should), then by not calling authorities and having the place investigated, you are allowing this to happen to other children.
2006-07-14 14:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have talked to her face to face. When she called you back she had 10 minutes to decide how she was going to pacify you. Take your child somewhere else but the police and child services should definitely be involved.
2006-07-14 14:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋