Guy has been in & out of rehab for the past 5 years.. just moved to our city. He is in church & AA, his aunt paid for his rehab & gave him a place to stay & helped him get job with her husband. First 6 weeks he was here was still communicating & saying he wanted to get back with his ex, which he doesn't know I know this, he said they were just friends & talked, who is seperated from her husband & lives in another city, we started as friends & then I got really sick & he stayed with me for a week in hospital & now he says he is in love with me & I am his girlfriend & I really like him... do you think he could go from being so in love with her to loving me in just a few weeks. I have read emails he sent her & text... he sent text day before I went in hospital saying he loved her and tried but didnt' get to see her while I in hospital, he told her he loves me & it broke her heart and she said they couldn't be friends... he really be in love with her 5 years then now be in love with me
2006-07-14 07:22:42 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sent her email few weeks before I got sick saying he was feeling emotionally needy and his email to her were so full of love... don't know if he could really change his feelings so quickly... she is married and he is angry because she was supposed to get divorced and just now after 3 years is is seperated... he says he still loves her but as a friend... think so??
2006-07-14 07:24:12 · update #1
he sent her 3 emails after telling her about me saying he was worried and she never responded and he hasn't contacted her anymore.. is that encouraging???
2006-07-14 07:35:59 · update #2
So after 5 years in and out of rehab, you're asking if he's stable after a few weeks of clean time?
Probably too much damage had been done in his marriage to salvage it, and he may even accept that, but still harbors strong feelings for the ex.
You're getting him on the rebound and rebound affairs often end badly.
And he's in AA. Unless you're in the program yourself, AA will always be a wall between the two of you. You're a "normie" or "earth person". You can't possibly understand him, at least that's what they'll teach him. He may try to get you to join Al anon. It's a big dysfunctional family, one that would be best to avoid. The folks in the rooms switch partners like high school kids. There is a real lack of emotional maturity.
My advice: you can do better.
2006-07-14 08:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by raysny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's not over her and it's selfish of him to bring you into his life romantically. My suggestion is to just stay friends but disconnect romantically until he is over her.
It's not fair for any of you.
2006-07-14 14:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by jthoms9800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋