Yesterday my boyfriend yelled at me because I couldn't meet him, I have a job and my mother just had her hip replaced and is in recovery at home, I don't drive I cacth the bus and the only bus that runs around my way runs every hour so if you miss one, your pretty much sol. He did apoplogize but still I was pretty hurt that he didn't even ask why, he just started fussing so I hung up on his *** but I want to really forgive him. Something won't let me pick up the phone and call though. Is it pride? Was I pushed over the edge? I don't know what to do.
2006-07-14 07:13:59 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were hurt. It was so childish of him to yell at you for not understanding your situation in the first place, he didnt even appreciate your effort despite all the troubles you have had just to meet him.
But since he apologized, that's good then... And I can understand you for not picking up the phone etc.. Give it some time and hope things will get back to normal for the both of you!
2006-07-14 07:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are clearly still angry about it and are not yet ready to extend the olive branch.
I had a boyfriend blow me off one night in such a way that I was really worried for his health and safety. Finally the next morning he called to say that he had crashed at a friends house after work - blah blah blah. I was furious. I knew I was going to have to go and pick him up but he was gonna wait until I was good and ready. So I hung around our apartment and stewed a while, called a friend, watched some tv and after a while I was able to think about dealing with him nicely again. The fact that he had to wait for 4 hours for me to get around to getting him, showed him that I was really really mad.
You are going through a lot of stress right now and he has pissed you off. He goes to the bottom of the list, so to speak, of attention getters right now, as he should. I mean in his defense he could also have had a hard day or whatever, but that is no excuse for treating you so rudely.
The weekend is here, get some rest and see how you feel tomorrow. Try to take your mind off it for now. There is plenty of time for him later and if he is worth anything he will surely understand that you have more important things on your mind.
Don't wait around for him to call you. Firstly, you are mad, you handle this the way you want. Secondly, he may not call you because he doesn't want to cause you trouble or he is just afraid of getting yelled at himself.
Peace!
2006-07-14 07:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you want to forgive him because you just want everything to be ok and back to normal - but he disrespected you and you are right not to want to let it go. You have to think though about if he was going through anything at the time - sometimes people just get weird when they are going through a lot of stuff or maybe he was in a bad mood. There is no excuse but if he is truly sorry and wants to make it up to you - you should accept it. I always think you should go with your gut though - don't let that kind of stuff happen again - if you do it will just continue to escalate into bigger things.
2006-07-14 07:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by gracien84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was the latest in a string of bad behavior, I would break up with him because he obviously doesn't appreciate the gravity of my situation. If I felt like he usually treated me right otherwise, I would try to swallow my pride and forgive him. Eventually the hurt would go away.
2006-07-14 07:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by That Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your situation, I wouldn't tolerate a guy who'd be so selfish and yell about something so petty. Personally, I yell right back at my boyfriend until he calms down enough to be reasonable. It's never been true yelling, just talking over one another actually.
2006-07-14 07:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by krd12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally it is no big deal. People get stressed and sometimes yell. When a person yells like how you are descibing it really sounds like he has some control issues. You should really take a closer look at your relationship. This could be a sign of a bigger problem. Watch yourself and take care of yourself.
2006-07-14 07:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by NIKK F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have been more understanding and never should have yelled at you. You might not want to call back because he is the one that messed up, and he should be the one to call you. If he does call you back, let him know again how much it hurt you, and if he is truely sorry, forever him. If it keeps happening though, you might want to rethink things.
2006-07-14 07:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by nothankyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with a little yelling. Yelling is therapuetic. People yell all the time. Atleast he apologized, talk to the boy he just missed you
2006-07-14 07:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by mommyof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept his apology, but let him know that you were hurt. Maybe he was having a bad day, but then again it's no excuse to yell at you. If he keeps yelling at you, you should show him the door.
ps-Why didn't he go meet you instead?
2006-07-14 07:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by samurai_chica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait for him to call you. Its not pride, you have every right of way to be hurt. According to this incident, he was being inconsiderate. I'm sorry to hear about your mother though!!
2006-07-14 07:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋