There's this girl that is in my church youth group. She is the same age as me....16. We've gotten to be pretty good friends. I wanted to remain friends, but last night, she texted me to ask if we wanted to go to the movies next friday. I said I couldn't because I really couldn't because I was having friends over. She is not the most beautiful person in the world, but is nice, and kind. She and my older sister are really good friends. But what I am afraid of is that it will be really awkward at the church youth group meetings. I am not looking for answers, but I just want to know what you think that I should do. Any solutions?
2006-07-14 06:57:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She asked me out. To a movie. just us 2
2006-07-14 07:00:45 · update #1
Just be normal. Next time you see her, ask her what movie she saw and then arrange a group of friends to go out and invite her as part of the group...ask her if there's any special guy you should invite for her, mention a lady that you've had your eye on, but then say it's really just a friendly thing, not a date.
2006-07-14 06:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by threelucy2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the date next time it's offered, (after all, it's just a movie,) but be clear, outspoken and honest about any feelings you harbor; if you're sure that you'd rather keep things on a "just friends basis" you must say so up front; if you've decided you're willing to risk becoming a public item, a paired-up couple, talk to her about that; if you're unsure of things all around, talking with a friend is a good idea and it sounds like this girl is already on your list.
In all cases, an open conversation with this young lady seems in order, and I think you'll find that by talking things out your current dilemma will become an easy hurdle to leap.
Good luck.
2006-07-14 14:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that she may think you are cute and want to know you better. Why not take a chance and see if you guys can be more than just friends? Church youth group meetings shouldn't hold you back from testing a relationship. Best thing about movies, you just have to sit and watch. =]
2006-07-14 14:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Cho Chang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with her to the movie hang out with her. So you both attend the same church and youth group what is the problem nothing wrong if it becomes more serious other than friendship then let her know that your not wanting more than friendship.
You should be glad someone in the youthgroup at your church wants to do something with you. Gives you someone you can relate and talk with and enjoy yourself with.
2006-07-14 14:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Firestorm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends do go to the movies together.
What makes you think she wants more.
I am sorry that you are a church goer and felt the need to say she isn't pretty.
Is that what they teach you in church, that the outside is more important then the inside.
That statement disappoints me .
Grow up and stop watching all of those movies and TV.
2006-07-14 14:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also attend youth group and i know that at my youth group many many people beign to date within the group and there have been alot of problems and drama within the group because of the fact that they have broken-up. and it is in out human flesh to want to chose sides when the relationship is over. but if you do decide to go out with this girl and you are a man of God make sure that you base your relationship on God and try not to get things, physical things, in the way. If you seek God, he will provide for you and bless you with what you need. I don't know how you feel about this girl, but pray about it and be patient, because God sees no time. 10,000 years in our life is like a second in God's eyes. just don't rush things.
2006-07-14 14:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to the movies with her. If you're uncomfortable going with her alone, then tell her sure, and that one or two of your friends want to come along too. You're not obligated to date her because she asked you out, or because she's a nice girl. If you're not interested in her that way, be nice and tell her so. Tell her she's a good friend, and you like being her friend, and you don't want to ruin that be "dating".
2006-07-14 14:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it!....u seem to like her......and the fact that she goes to ur church is a major plus!!
i'm am currently with my bf of 2yrs. and we're still going strong. And guess where i met him?...........at my church youth group!!
He is actually one of my brother's best friends.
Everything will turn out fine!......it won't be awkward!...at first you two will be shy and all that cute stuff, but afterwards.....it's kool!
......BUT....if it doesn't work out...it will get awkward...but ONLY if u let it!......when my bf and i broke up once....seeing him was the hardest thing to do!....but i kept in mind that he was my brother in christ!...and thats how it was!...we were friends for a while before we got back together.
good luck!
2006-07-14 14:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you will never know unless you try it.
2006-07-14 14:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋