I am speaking specifically about the wedding party. For instance, when the mother-of-the-bride comes down, grandmother, etc. His mom won't come. His dad is deceased and I'm not sure about whether or not his grandmother will participate. It really doesn't bother me that they are there but I just don't want to be the ***** Bride when people say, where's your husbands mom, dad, family, etc...PLEASE HELP!
2006-07-14 06:52:42 · 10 answers · asked by Kelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that there was great advice given above... I couldn't have said it better.
Don't worry! and... don't let it bother you. This day is about you and your future husband. I'm sure that your close friends and his close friends will make up for it.
It sounds like his mom has some issues that she needs to work out. If people ask about his family, simple reply, "They couldn't make the trip..." Or something... I can't think of a good excuse except... "They are visiting MARS." Anyway... good luck and God bless!
2006-07-14 07:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by ChitChatBrat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So they don't want to come at all? I am confused when you say come down, if you are talking about the aisle and only the true wedding party (bridesmaids and groomsmen) walk down the aisle. If they do not want to come at all that is sad but unless you bend over backwards and kiss their *** its not going to happen. And if you do it once on this day you will do it the rest of your life and that is no way to start a marriage. My husbands family is great but VERY conservative and we get along great but they do not approve of alcohol or caffeine. Does that mean I hide the wine and coffee maker when they visit, NO. They are guests in my house and choose not to partake that's fine but I am not going to go out of my way to be something I am not.
So your in laws are guests at your wedding and if they choose not to come then respect their decision and stand your ground and when people ask why they are not there, tell them an abbreviated version of the truth. Why aren't they coming anyway?
If its for religious purposes then tell your guests that. Due to their religious affiliations they chose not to participate. Your guests probably wont even ask, so don't worry.
2006-07-14 07:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even mention it. If anyone brings it up, then just say they couldn't make it and then change the subject. There really isn't any need to address it other than to make sure that the ushers seat people in the seats that would normally be left empty for family.
2006-07-14 15:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you asked them once and they declined, and your groom doesn't care, then simply invite them to the wedding as guests and do not include them in the party. It is likely that his side of the family will know/understand why they aren't participating and your side will understand. It's your wedding, however you decide to do things will be accepted as long as everyone is happy and having fun
2006-07-14 07:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by atkrank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. It's YOUR wedding. Tell them what YOU would like for them to do. But let them know that they don't HAVE to do it. It's really not a big deal. It's not worth ruining your day over, so just talk to them about it, and if they refuse, oh well. It'll still be a beautiful ceremony no matter what. It's YOUR day. Don't let ANYONE ruin that!!
2006-07-14 07:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that they were unable to make it to the wedding and send their regrets. This doesn't have to be true, but if it saves you heartache and stress on your wedding day, it's fine! I wish you the best of luck!
2006-07-14 07:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me, you don't need them around for your wedding. you are under enough stress. it was my family who threw a wrench into the wedding plans. afterwards, i wished they hadnt been there. go with your heart. do what makes you happy it is your day.
2006-07-14 06:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by Emily M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl this is to celebrate the union of you and your future husbands lives.........if they dont want to be apart of it, it is their problem. this is a once in a lifetime oppertunity and it is about you and him, no one else...by the way congrats!
2006-07-14 07:56:31 · answer #8 · answered by chevygirl46933 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Call it a "failure to participate". I did. My happiest day was my happiest day, whether they shared it with their son or not. Their loss.
2006-07-14 07:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by babefirstclass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they couldn't make it
2006-07-14 06:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋