Help with life period?

Question

Okay my husband is has to go to court in Texas for child custody of his 4 year old on Aug. 8th. I am 8 months prengnant now and my due date is Aug 9th. I'm super stressed b/c I don't want him to miss the birth of his child? I don't want to ask him to push the court date back b/c his sons mother has basically took off with his son during her visitation. What should I do before I make myself go crazy thinking about whats more important to him. He seems to only care about his son and not that I'll be having his 3rd child around the time he has court.

okay first off he was never married to this person we call his sons mother. We have been married for 4 years, so she isn't trying to break us up. She just finally got granted visitation after 4 years b/c she took off and left him with her son. I have raised this child and he knows me as mom, not her and I do worry about him to b/c his mother is a person that doesn't deserve to have children.(she has 4 other by 4 diff. men that she don't see) I know that the world don't revolve around me, but it giving birth to his child would mean alot to him if he was there. It's not only me that wants him there. I love him and his son and would do anything for the child as I already took him under my wing and playing the mother role to him.

Answer 1

Okay, to "HeatherLyn", quit calling children parasites! You said that in another question I just read. You shouldn't even be answering questions that involve kids or sensitive subjects when you OBVIOUSLY have no idea about it or feel any positive feelings about it.
As for the question, if you went into labor it would be considered a medical emergency and would be a reasonable excuse to reschedule the court proceedings, even if it happened in the middle of it.
As for his concern, he should be concerned equally for all of his children. The child you are pregnant with now is not here yet, so he is of coursed concerned with the here and now dilemma of his 4 year old. Men do not feel the same strong attachments like expectant mothers do towards the unborn child, usually, so relax a little. Child custody cases are hard and I know from first hand experience. I won't comment on that any farther. Good luck with your baby and labor, and I'm sure everything will work out fine. Just do not pressure him about choosing a child, because it will backfire big time. He will come around when it's time.

Answer 2

Well, in some cases, if the court is previously notified the court date 4 that day can B postponed instead of changing the entire court date... its like court starts as scheduled on Aug 8th, there is no court on Aug 9th so he can B w/ U, & then court continues the following day as if nothing happened :0) Meanwhile, the exwife could B held N prison/contempt/jail or w/e the court desires & the child put N custody of a trustee/guardian/family member :0) this way every1 is happy & unharmed! Try not being so stressed out by creating a past time :0)

Answer 3

Don't be too hard on your husband, unless he purposely picked that court date. Sometimes there are things that cannot be changed. However, if he or his attorney can change the court date, he should do it so that he can be with you when you deliver your and his child. Unless the mother is abusing his son, it doesn't seem to me that time is all that urgent. He should do everything he can to take care of both of these things. But if he absolutely cannot change the court date, then it is you that must be more understanding, flexible, and forgiving. Good luck.

Answer 4

You knew your husband had a son from a previous marriage when you married him. Now his ex-wife has absconded with the boy. Give me a break! The poor guy must be absolutely frantic!

I sincerely think you need to grow up, quit chewing on the scenery, stand behind your husband and let things unfold as they will. The world does NOT rotate around you! Women have been having babies for centuries without their husbands hovering over them. What about all the service wives who are giving birth while their husbands are stationed in Afghanistan and Iraq? And you think that you've got a lot to worry about?

You also need to consider the possibility that your husband's ex-wife is pulling this stunt in order to break up your marriage. If so, you're walking right into her trap!

Answer 5

You really answered your own question. AROUND the time he has court, doesn't mean that you will deliver on that day. You could be late. You could be early. There isn't a whole lot you can do about the birth of your child.

You can insist, however, that your hubby take care of you first by asking for a short continuance. You do have those rights.

Answer 6

you should ask him to move the court date thats not fair to you i know that the other child i importent to but you will need him at the houspitl he need to check himself all children are importent he will kick himself if he misses the birth of your baby it is a one time deal he cam move it back a week are 2 talk to him a let him know how you feel if he will not respect that then you might have a bigger problem

Answer 7

If that's stress, think of the next woman he gets pregnant while you are in court fighting for custody and child support.

Answer 8

Let him go, and you take care of the one in the oven. It will, God willing, be there for him when he gets home. And it will have one parent in attendance, which it sounds like the 4 year old doesn't really.
You should be grateful he cares enough about his son not to just jettison him--good chance he'll be as concerned about this new baby. Who could complain about that?

Answer 9

Uh...leave him. If he's just around to knock you up and not bother with the kid being born- just give it up for adoption, take the two parasites (oops, I mean kids) that you already have, and go live somewhere else.

Answer 10

I think he cares about all of you but just try and take his placewhat would you do. but if he can't make it for the due date have some one in his family take his place and film it or take pictures. you'll know he will be there in your heart.