My Grandma is slave-driving my Dad into the ground. She lives on the farm that he works and demands all these labourous tasks around her house that she should be hiring young kids to do. My dad is 54 and heart attacks/strokes run in our family. I want to tell her to quit these demands from my Dad before it kills him but not sure how? Please help!
2006-07-14 06:35:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My Grandma is loaded - she can definitely afford to hire help. I'm a full-time working mom with my own house to take care of. Besides, she's never been interested in me, my brother or anyone but herself so no - I won't offer to help! I think my Dad feels like he owes it to her just because she's his mother...
2006-07-14 07:21:14 · update #1
I would speak to your Dad first and express your concerns. Perhaps he is the one that should speak to her first. If not, then you to her and let her know your health concerns for your dad. She may not listen but at least you tried.
2006-07-14 06:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by L D 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There's more than one person's behavior you might need to address here. Sure, your grandma may be acting like a slave-driver, but another important issue is that your father is LETTING her. Odds are, he's not even thinking about his own health - he just wants to help his mom. If this is really a big concern for you, perhaps you should sit the two of them down and air your concerns. If you live nearby, maybe you can offer to help sometimes too. Or maybe YOU can hire someone to go help grandma - after all, most of the farmers I know don't have a lot of extra cash lying around. Bottom line, though - if you want to be heard and believed, then you'll need to get involved somehow. Just yelling at your Grandma for her "behavior" without doing something to help out will only make you seem petty and controlling - just like someone else you know, right? Good luck!
2006-07-14 13:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyOphelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can she afford to pay someone? Why don't you help wth some of these tasks to lighten the workload of your father. Go help him and maybe then you can hint your Grandmother about your worries. Helping him seems like the right thing to do rather than just thinking it might cause a heart attack and not do anything to help him. Don't just stand on the sidelines.
2006-07-14 13:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it bother your dad that he does all of this? If not, then I would butt out. If you're really worried about his health, then talk to your dad about taking it easy. Not to your grandma. You father is a grown man and makes his own decision to do this work for your grandma. So, have your chat with him.
2006-07-14 13:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to your grandma and tell her how worried about him that you are. I'm sure that she does not realize how you feel or maybe that she is working your dad to hard. I'm sure this is the first step to getting this resolved. Good luck
2006-07-14 13:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk to your day about this and if he feels the same way you two might talk to grandma together or just have your dad to hire someone that the family trust and knows
2006-07-14 13:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to sit down talk to her let her know how u feel bout her doing ur father tell her she need to not be so hard cause i had the same problem but wi my dad controling me and tell her u think she should hire someone to do it so try this and i hope i works
2006-07-14 13:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by lil westside 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say: Hey gram, "Why are you so hard on my dad? Do you want to drive him to an early grave?" Tell her you like old-fashioned grandmas--the sweet kind. Good luck.
2006-07-14 13:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by slans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell dad to wear the pants.
organize kids to the work instead.
The real prob is about money isn't it. join the club.
2006-07-14 13:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you help out by doing some of the work?
2006-07-14 13:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Oh Boy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋