2006-07-14 06:24:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It would be wrong to force him to go. The man is like a stranger. If he truly wants to be in you sons life, he needs to make many visits (pre-arranged) at your house or take him to a park and have father meet you there. Let them get to know each other and for your son to trust and feel comfortable. But don't leave your son alone with him till he's comfortable. He will probably be willing to go on a visit with him eventually. Start the alone visits small. Like an hour or so, then increase as you see fit.
2006-07-14 06:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm. You didn't finish the question, but I think the answer is that it doesn't matter what his father in prison wants, it's about what your son wants and his feelings. I know that we believe we know what's best for kids, but they understand more than we give them credit for. You should respect your son's wishes and if you want to know more, than ask your son why he doesn't want to visit his father and I'm sure he'll give you a good reason from his perspective. Remember, they don't think like adults. For them, most things are simple, there's hardly any grey area in there reasoning. It's either black or white.
2006-07-14 06:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're saying your son doesn't want to help out his dad. I think any involvement should be decided officially, if it already hasn't been. See a counsellor or lawyer or both to determine what to do. If your son has been hearing mainly negative things about his dad then I understand his hesitation.
Thanks for sharing & good luck.:}
2006-07-14 15:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Tall Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who and what? The father doesn't want or the son doesn't want?
2006-07-14 06:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we i wouldnt make him u can couse problem between u and him later in life he well start to resint u for making him go. i let him do it on his on ween he is ready. my bestfriend son is 5 his dady never in the pic payed childsport but didnt want to be in life till she remarried. now she took him to see him but the lil boy dont want to she tryed to make him and he started acting out in school getting troble all this started the sametime he started seeing his dady she had it supervise so she wouldnt have to go he told his mom he dont want to see him anymore. she has lift alone now and he doing better. he hasnt see his kid in 4 1/2 years now wanted to start. so she told his father that he didnt wish to see him anymore and maybe ween he gets older he well but for now she not going to force him anymore couse it was stress his school and her home and her and his reationship. let him do it on his own.
2006-07-14 06:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your son why he doesn't want to go, but forcing your kid to go is not right.
2006-07-14 06:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make him
2006-07-14 06:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh?
you need to add details
2006-07-14 06:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make him go.
2006-07-14 06:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋