Guys, at what rate can i be intimate without losing your respect?

Question

I've been "seeing" this guy for a short time. He's been over my place to watch TV and he tells me how he's interested in me.(in more ways than one) I'm no angel, but i'm trying to take things real slow with him. Maybe I'm going too slow. I guess I'm worried about losing his respect for me, but at the same time, I dont know if I want to dedicate myself to a longterm relationship with him. I hope I didnt offend anyone.

Answer 1

how much you get paid to suck my king of the darkness?

Answer 2

It depends on the guy you are seeing. If he is pushing you already then mybe you are moving too slow or maybe he just wants to get laid and he likes you to boot.
I ahve had friends that slept with the guy on the first date and ended up happily married to that same guy. It was just that neither of them bought into the whole " how soon is too soon " thing and it did not bother them at all. But there have been times when a friend was broken up with because she slept with him too soon. HEY GUYS WE ARE NOT IN BED ALONE SO QUIT USING THAT AS AN EXCUSE.
Anyway- it boils down to when you are ready so don't give it up until you are sure YOU want to. IF this guy is someone you can walk away from then he probably is not worth sleeping with to begin with.

Answer 3

Well, I think you should start one step at a time to keep him interested while you make up your mind what you want. There must be something about him that you do not like or you would already be jumping his bones. Take that fault of his (either not the cutest boy in town, a slob, no job, a little dorky) and let him know now. be honest with him and if you either learn to accept it, he is willing to try to work on it, or you decide he is not right for you let him know. Don't break this mans heart. But if you decide to go for it then start off with a little kiss on the cheek now and then but only a friendly one at first, work up to kissing maybe a couple dates later, and finally let him know you mean business.

Answer 4

you need to stop thinking about him using you and stuff because not every guy is the same. and no one can tell you an exact answer because we dont know how your relationship is. But i mean if you think things are going slowly speed it up i mean seriously i dont see a reason to go to slow because sometimes its not good. i didnt know also i was haveing thoughts like you but then im like if i loose him then i do because you cant always focus on that and hey if you loose him then you know theres always some better.and if he hasnt left now then he wont because if he was really an *** he would of not been waiting for to long = ] GOOD LUCK HUN

Answer 5

Sad to say but guys are always seeking intimatacy in a relationship and they dont care if it is long term or short.So as a girl you need to be v. careful where you thread, from the looks of it , i think you are infatuated with this guy and if you give yourself time i am sure you will get over him . If he loves you he will respect you and hang on , otherwise he is not worth it..l..

Answer 6

THUMPS UP BABY!go as slow as you can.Time is the best way to know if what you both feel is the real thing.to love someone does not mean you should stoop so low.you are doing the right thing.give him nothing more than a hug.he'll even find it special since he knows you dont do that to everyone.if he truly loves you,he'll respect your values.GO GIRL.

Answer 7

this is my opinion and only my opinion so, you don't have to take it.
if he's moving to fast tell him to back off. if he asks why tell him the truth. it sound like he's getting obsessive and that can lead to a lot of bad thing. be sure to keep your eyes and ears open when he's around. just be carful is all i'm saying. as for the relationship be sure he knows what you want or else confustion can make the relationship go sour.

Answer 8

I'm no guy but from all the answers I see you have recieved it just shows how that a man can bewittle your self respect quick and in a hurry. If you don't feel comfortable with have'n sex with him at this time then don't. If he can't respect that than he don't respect you.

Answer 9

minimum age should be 18. it truly is even as someone is legally to blame for the consequences of their movements. previous to that, your friends are regularly happening to blame...and they ought to not ought to pay one cent in route of medical costs for being pregnant or STD medical take care of their youngster. If someone needs to have sex, they pick to be in a position to address some thing which could ensue...bodily, financially, and emotionally. If ya can't pay, do not play. in the different case, it is purely irresponsible and should be unlawful. sex no longer ensue before: a million. you're waiting to address a being pregnant, ought to it ensue 2. you're waiting to address an STD, ought to it ensue 3. once you understand how a lady can change into pregnant (each and each and every of the procedures it ought to ensue) 4. once you understand what different STDs are and how they're transmitted and a thanks to assist guard adverse to them 5. once you're waiting to insist your better 0.5 placed on a condom (female) or insist that you position on one (male) 6. once you're on a good sort of birth control and utilising it authentic (female) or be sure that she is (male) 7. once you're waiting to address any emotional subject matters that ought to come from being intimate with yet another individual till you've were given those issues coated, you should no longer have sex.

Answer 10

HEY SWEETY,

LOOK, I DON'T THINK YOU'RE GOING TO SLOW WITH THIS GUY. LIKE YOU SAID YOU ONLY HAVE KNOWN HIMI FOR A SHORT PERIOD OF TIME. HOW DO YOU KNOW HE DOESN'T HAVE SOME KIND OF STD, OR WIFE, OR G/F OR KIDS. THIS GUY COULD BE A SERIAL KILLER FOR ALL YOU KNOW . PLUS DON'T YOU THINK THAT IF HE'S IN A HURRY TO SLEEP WITH YOU THEN ALL HE WANTS FROM YOU IS SEX?

PLEAS EMAIL ME AT [e-mail] AND WE CAN TALK ABOUT THIS PRIVATELY....THERE'S TOO MUCH TO SAY .....

Answer 11

The best way to know is based on how the guy feels about you and what he tells you. Respect is tough - once it's gone, there's really no getting it back.