Should I Stay Or Leave?

Question

I started dating a wonderful person in December of last year. At the time I met him, I was staying at friends houses and when we started dating, he invited me to come live with him so that I would have a steady place to live and pick up my life. Things were great when we first started dating, and I was sure that I loved him and that we were great together. After time passed, I noticed that I wasn't 100% attracted to him, and the love flame burnt out. In May, I broke up with him because I wasn't happy. After a few days, we talked and agreed to give it another shot. He has never done anything terrible to me ever, in fact, he is amazing. The perfect guy in all aspects, its just...I don't have really strong feelings for him. I have to decide today whether or not I want to go back home (in a completely other state) and get back into school, or if I want to stay here and try to work it out. I care about him a lot and dont want him to be hurt, but im afraid im missing a good chance.

help?

i do care about him completely. there is nothing wrong with the relationship other than the fact that i feel no fireworks. i adore him and he makes me laugh a lot, but its so hard for me to hurt him by saying im not happy here, when hes done nothing to make me unhappy.

this is why im so confused.

ive tried to make it work before, when we got back together in may, and it has been working, but there still are no sparks.

Answer 1

You should think it over very carefully but it sounds like your not completely sure about staying behind and trying to work things out with him.....?? If you don't have really strong feelings for him then don't string him along, if you stay, give it an honest shot and dedicate yourself to trying to make it work. It's your choice but YOU have to be comfortable with what you decide and you can't be wishy washy.....that will only make things more complicated.
Go with the Gut!!!
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

i think this is one of those times where you are anwering your own question... =T.... you can't work things out if your heart is not 100% into it. relationship wise, you want to be with someone who means everything to you, that you would do anything for, and love unconditionally. maybe he loves you that way, but if you don't love him you are cheating yourself and him of a great relationship.. does that make sense? if you really care about him, let him go and find someone who WILL love him that 100%... to keep him around cuz he is great guy but u are lukewarm is selfish..and in the end when bigger problems come up you will not work as hard to fix it because you feel like you could do better, etc....

when i was w/ my exes, i cared about them, but there were times when i just felt i could do better..!! and i would be on match.com or whatever for "fun" and look at the messages, even if there was NO intention of meeting anyone. but for some reason with my new boyfriend.. i felt absolutely NO NEED to check messages, and i haven't done it since i met him!! i don't know why!!! so i think this guy just fulfills all my needs and wants, so much so that i don't feel the need to look around or keep options open. you need to find someone who does that for you.. where you don't need anyone else but him.... good luck. you may be hurting him, but you'd hurt him much more later if u kept it going.

Answer 3

Go back home and finish your education. It's best to get yourself together before you get into a relationship. Life is too short to settle for someone who doesn't float your boat! He deserves to be with someone who really loves him, too.

Answer 4

u should really think about it, not to many girls get the chance to have a great man in their life

Answer 5

Stay

Answer 6

Leave.