Yes, we're starting the ideas rolling already, as we're getting married! He got me a small 1/4 carat ring to wear while we run around & pick out the real rock - 1 Carat (lol).. I plan to keep the little one to give to our Daughter(AFTER we have one!).
Anyhow, my real query is this: I am paying for the Wedding, & my hubby-to-be's ring. *My Dad set me up with a $10K Dowry a few years ago for my wedding. HIS parents are expected to pay for the Honeymoon, by tradition. If we're spending $10K on the wedding, what is an appropriate Honeymoon budget? (He already wants to do a week in Hawaii, + a week in Australia or New Zealand.) I come from an upper middle class family, as does he. Him & his father own & run their own large construction business, so money is not quite the issue. But I want to know that I am not overstepping my bounds? (though HE is the one picking the honeymoon lol) I was thinking that no more than $2,500 or $3,000 should we be asking them to spend, if that! Any ideas?
2006-07-14 05:31:13 · 6 answers · asked by Skate Rat Betty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are missing the point. It IS traditional for the Groom's parents to offer to pay for the honeymoon, just as it is for the Bride's parents to offer to pay for the Wedding! I am not, though I could, paying for my own honeymoon along with my wedding. I want to know how much anyone else's hubby-to-be's parents shelled out for the big trip!
But thanks for the benefit of YOUR experiences! :)
2006-07-14 05:58:34 · update #1
Perfect "ak", excatly what I was curious about, now keep em coming guys! Thanks much!
2006-07-14 05:59:51 · update #2
Let me revise my earlier statement.
HIS PARENTS ARE FUC*ING PAYING FOR THE HONEYMOON.
Does that help for all you who can't see past the fact that their might be something you don't KNOW????
How OLD are those of you who keep telling me it's not traditional, just out of curiousity? B/c I am sorry, but I do believe you're incorrect~
2006-07-14 06:28:27 · update #3
The $3K is a number I came up with... I was just thinking the honeymoon should not be as expensive as the wedding, but I am hearing more and more this is not the case! Thanks much for the input. and Yes, my hubby-2-be has offered to chip in for New Zealand if his parents only want to spring for Hawaii..... And WHEW, are those trips expensive!!!
2006-07-14 07:26:16 · update #4
I just had a situation like this. My recommendation would be that before you start planning the honeymoon of your dreams, simply ask what your budget is. That way you both can plan the honeymoon you want based on a budget you are given. I was told to pick a honeymoon out....we did and it was priced at $7,000. The future in-laws quoted us a budget after the fact and we had to rework the honeymoon. I would not ask for a certain price first - let them present what they are thinking and then go from there. If you presented a price of $2,500 - $3,000 you might be short changing yourself. They might have a higher number in mind. Good luck!!
2006-07-14 05:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by ak517969 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of the groom's family paying for the honeymoon. Wedding books state that this is the responsibilty of the groom, by himself. Is this a family tradition or a cultural one? And I don't see how you're going to get that kind of honeymoon for $3,000, it will cost more than that. Anyway, you would have to just sit down with his parents and ask them how much they can or want to contribute.
2006-07-14 05:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never heard of it being tradional for the groom's parents to pay for the honeymoon, and I've read a lot of wedding planning books! My husband and I paid for our honeymoon but both of our parents surprised us by giving us some spending money for the trip as a gift.
2006-07-14 06:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well...its nice that they are going to pay for the homeymoon, but to be honset, its going to be more then $3000 for then honeymoon your husband to be wants. i dont know if your planning to put in the rest of it and only want to ask for a certain amout of how its working. we didnt take a honeymoon when my husband and i married because we couldnt afford it, but the one we were looking at was about $5000 for a week in St. Lucia. My suggestion would be to decide where you want to go then talk to a travel agent and find out the cost. then let his parents know what your looking at price wise. if its really expensive then let them know your willing to pay some of it too and find out what they want to give you. if your dad set you up with $10,000 then they may be willing to spend close to that too since they are getting off with not paying for the wedding. anyways...whereever you go, have a good time and have lots of fun!!!
2006-07-14 07:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
traditionally the bride's kinfolk paid for terribly almost each and every thing. The groom's kinfolk, i think will pay for his and his attendants clothing, the wine, the plant life and the honeymoon. i don't have self belief those rules practice any further. Our society is changing appreciably so the previous traditions are no longer any further valid.
2016-12-10 06:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by ochs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby and i saved for a year and did it all ourselves. about $10-$12 thousand.
2006-07-14 05:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by kaala79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋