We had a rough start to the first few weeks we started seeing each other. We both got a little scared of moving too fast. We've decided to go out together, but I think he might be a little nervous about where things might go and how I'm seeing things.
I really have gained a good point of view in that I'm good with just seeing each other occassionally and enjoying each other's company. My question is, should I volunteer this information to him since he seems a little nervous, or should I not assume that's what's going on with him and just leave well enough alone?
2006-07-14 05:11:57 · 13 answers · asked by beautiful disaster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Clear, open communication is the best cure all.
If stating how you feel and what your perspective is screws things up then you didn't have much to work with in the first place.
2006-07-14 05:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Miss. A. Laneous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been going out a few weeks. Much too early for serious conversations.
Just hang out, have a good time, and enjoy each other for a few more weeks. Basically, just go with the flow. Chill and enjoy.
Hopefully, after a few more weeks, you'll both be comfortable enough with each other to know what you want and where you stand.
2006-07-14 05:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open communication is ALWAYS a good way to clear up things. I would suggest you be open and honest and encourage the same from him. NEVER MAKE ASSUMPTIONS. Too many times, our assumptions are off and this leads to miscommunications. Go ahead and let him know what your view is and what you think is going on with him and that you're volunteering this info in case its the source of his nervousness, then give him room to dispute or confirm your assumptions. Good Luck.
2006-07-14 05:17:07 · answer #3 · answered by dark_storm73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you mustn't, if he reported he would not care about what takes position to the condom then obviously he wasn't planning on making use of it. also if he needed to hide issues from you, i do not imagine he ought to cover it in a drawer that you wiped clean out with him, and that you mostly open. i'm no longer saying he DOES cover issues from you, or he has, this is as a lot as you. attempt to be rational and keep calm.
2016-10-14 11:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by jackson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he is so nervous, or where he see's the 'relationship' going... And just say, that you are fine with just hanging out occassionally, and if it persists into something else, then just go with the flow...
2006-07-14 05:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXXXXXXX Volunteer your point of view. It will take an awful lot of pressure off his shoulder and maybe you both can have an equal great time enjoying eachothers company and letting the chips lie as they fall. Good luck hun. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-14 05:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. He may be feeling the same way as you. Maybe he doesn't want to rush you. Communicate about what is going on in your lives, that included feelings and emotions.
2006-07-14 05:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, just leave it alone unless he seems like he is so entirely nervous that he is going to bail.
2006-07-14 05:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take it slow.. see each other as much or as little as you both feel like.. if you're meant to be more and have a deeper relationship.. it will come to you.. don't rush..
2006-07-14 05:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Ninja CK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he is nervous. If he says yes, tell him how you feel and ease his worries.
2006-07-14 05:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by stick man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋