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Long story short, me and my ex agreed to be friends but the other day he came over and we kissed, neither one of us planning it. We agreed to do stuff like that. But then today he calls and says it's weird if we do things and I agree. He said he still wants to be friends and hang out with me sometime. I asked him to hang out tonight and he said no he didn't feel like doing anything but he kepy sounding angry at me and I didn't do anything. He keeps doing this, being nice to me and wanting to be friends, then he totally ignores me. What is going on?? Should I stop calling/texting and let him come to me with plans?

2006-07-14 05:06:16 · 10 answers · asked by tsvolleystarr13 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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In my experience its damn near impossible to 'be friends' after breaking up. You can be civil and say hello when you run into each other, but making plans to hang out is not a good idea.
Give it a while, a few months, maybe longer, and then you could possibly just be friends. If you keep hanging out you'll only confuse the issue for both of you and it will lead to one of you getting hurt.

2006-07-14 05:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Miss. A. Laneous 2 · 0 0

Personally, I would try not to talk to him/see him for a while. Breakups are hard for both people, and sometimes a bit of time and distance can help people who once cared about each other to be able to have a caring friendship, rather than hurting each other (not purposely) by staying too close and not allowing themselves the time and opportunity to move on with their lives.

Try to hang out with your other friends. Focus on your hobbies and personal interests. If you must speak with him, keep it short and be nice, just don't agree to see him - definitely don't kiss/hug/sleep with him... It will just set you both back to the beginning and make you have to go through many small breakups.

Good luck to you.

2006-07-14 12:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 0 0

thats because you have to be completely apart long enough to put the romantic relationship away before you can just be friends. most often this is nothing but a way to keep holding on to that person in some form but not committing to being with them either. its a bs deal and just move on. 90% of the time when a romantic relationship is done there is just nothing to be friends about, unless one still wants the privelege of using the other for something or wants to prevent them from moving on to another relationship even if they don't want them that way. yes stop calling and texting him, its over so let it be over.

2006-07-14 12:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0 0

Definitely stop calling and texting... he needs a little mystery and wonder what your doing and who you are hanging out with. This will either put him back in your life (if he still likes you) or he will drop the relationship for good (if he really doesn't care).

Either way, take control of it and don't contact him... and definitely don't run to the phone when he calls. Let him wonder, let him think and let him chase you. Right now he wants his cake and eat it too, and you need to stop being so available for his sweet tooth!

2006-07-14 12:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by ncstacey 2 · 0 0

The one thing a grown woman should learn is that ex's are just that.....you cannot be friends!!! Just leave the guy alone. Tell him you don't want to be friends...it's just not possible. Do him and yourself a favor and move on.

2006-07-14 12:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0 0

He's a guy. They never know what they want. He doesn't know what he wants. But he probably still likes you and doesn't want to show it. Stop calling for a while let his brain work its magic.

2006-07-14 12:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by roses81care 2 · 0 0

men and women never want to admit defeat when comes to relationships so they try to drag it on for as long as possible

this isnt healthy

break it of completely for now and see what happens in the future

2006-07-14 12:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by satanmonsterlord 2 · 0 0

yea let him figure out what he wants he sounds like when yall kissed it might have brought up feelings he wasnt ready to deal with yet so just back off and let him come to you

2006-07-14 12:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_enchanted2320032005 4 · 0 0

Yes....let him come to you.

His heart is trying to tell him something his mind doens't want to hear.

2006-07-14 12:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0 0

he wants a booty call.

2006-07-14 12:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by gunga_gungalunga 3 · 0 0

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