I'm having a hard time potty training my 3 1/2 year old daughter...?

Question

She knows the whole routine of going potty, she just won't do it. At the most inconveinient times (such as camping) she will stay dry, but at home she is always wetting herself, and frequently soiling herself as well. It is SO FRUSTERATING! I have heard of the 1 day method, but I don't think that it would help with her because she is already halfway there- she just been stuck half way there for about 6 months.

Answer 1

I am so happy to hear that someone else is having the same troubles!! I have a 31/2 year old daughter as well and it's been so hard potty training her. She is so stubborn, and just like you said, she just won't do it! When I sent her to daycare she would go, but at home she would not go at all! I tried everything, but nothing has worked, I have bribed her with toys and candy! Now I took away her training pants, and make her wear regular panties, if she wets in them I have to throw them away, and she doesn't like that idea! I make her set in them on the floor with a towel underneath for 10 minutes, she hates this, after doing this for a couple days, she now is going by herself finally. Try this, I think they just get so lazy and like to see us frustrated

Answer 2

She knows that you really want her trained and is refusing because it is something that only she can control. If you insist, she will resist. Let it go for awhile.

Get her a step stool for the adult toilet if she can't get up there by herself. Put her in clothing that she can easily take on and off without help. When you see her doing the potty dance say to her "It looks like you need to go to the bathroom." Give it no more attention than that. If she soils or wets herself, hold her responsible. Say to her "It looks like you need to change." She can remove the soiled clothing, rinse them out, put them in the laundry, clean herself and any wet area, and put on clean clothing. Don't help her! She will learn very soon that it is much easier to use the bathroom. Good luck!

Answer 3

I am where you are in the potty training world! My daughter learned it all at about 2 years, did fine, but now, at 3 yrs 4 months is completely random about it. Goes to the potty when reminded (if she doesn't decide to resist) and goes in her pants a lot of the time! Mostly pee, this week! I understand this is kind of a phase, involving where they are in their mental development, cause and effect, attention span, the whole thing. So all I can say to you as a fellow sufferer is, I'm glad I'm not the only one, and I think we pretty much have to stay patient and just keep reminding them. Hang in there!

p.s. I know lots of kids seem to not like having wet pants, but evidently my daughter doesn't mind that...

Answer 4

The one day method is explained in a paperback book called, POTTY TRAINING IN LESS THAN A DAY. Your lack of success might be because your daughter was not ready. There is a readiness quiz in the book. You would probably have success finding the book at a half price book store, since I'm sure it's been out of print. Give your daughter and yourself a short vacation from the frustration, get the book, then try, try again. Good luck!

Answer 5

I have a 2 year old daughter and she is now potty trained!! It took me 3 days. What I did is we went to target and she picked some pretty undies out and I told her she could wear them when she went on the potty like a big girl. Well that made her want to go on the potty then all I did is put the undies on and she went in them the first few times she did not like it. Then she went on the potty. I think what helped is that she did not like to sit in her pee or poop.

Answer 6

Trust me on this one.......just let her do it on her own. I know how frustrating this is....I went through the same ordeal with my 3 year old. She knew what she was supposed to do, she was just being stubborn. But then one day and I seriously mean "OUT OF THE BLUE". She decided that she wanted to do and within a week, she was wearing big girl panties and we have only had maybe a total of 4 accidents in 6 months. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you soon.

Answer 7

Does she like Dora? If she does we bought our daughter those and put them on her and said you need to go potty you don't wanna pee on Dora do you.
And she used the toilet ever since.
Our other daughter wanted to join dance so we told her as soon as she learned to use the potty, and could wear pantys like a big girl she could go, it took 2 days and she hasn't wet her pantys yet.
But she was to young to start dance, both of our daughters were in pantys very early.
Just over 2 years old, we got lucky.

Answer 8

for my daughter we sang the titi in the potty song when she would go, and she would get to go to the kitchen and pick a piece of candy out of her own candy jar it was the potty candy jar. i would put the candy she liked the most in there and ahe only got it when she would actually use the potty . i have a friend that also use the reward method with her daughter she likes the polly pockets. find something she likes the most and only give it to her when she pottys

Answer 9

I kept my litttle girl in panties when i trained her. As soon as i put a pull-up on her, shed pee. She didnt like the feeling of her pants being wet. So panties help. Id make a big deal out of it when she wet her panties..like OH NO...you peed your big girl panties...ewwwwww. You got to go pee pee in the toilet. Then id take her in on the toilet and set her down. Then when she would use it, id make a huge deal over it..clapping my hands and saying YEAAA!!! Big Girl!!!!! She only wet her panties twice. It was hard takign the step of not putting a diaper on her when we went to the store cause i just knew i was asking for it. But, it worked.

Answer 10

Try lots of praise when she sits on it and that will help, even if she does nothing but if she does then even more praise. eventually put her onto the toilet with a childs seat, and with more praise she will think she has done such a good job when really you have