Ok. I have or should I say I use to have a female best friend. She's always been like my little sister to me and even tho I've always wish that we could have been more than just best friends and she knows how I feel about her also but I've always respected her wishes and stayed there for her as her best friend. Well I had to go away out of state. She gave me and hug and kiss goodbye. Before I left I wasn't drinking cause I had stopped. My roommate in school drinks and one night I decided to have a drink and the alcohol level is twice as high as the alcohol level in my hometown. Well I got drunk, called my friend later. She doesn't like talking to me when I'm drunk. I said some things and acted in a way that I regret so much because now she's not talking to me anymore. It's been a week now and we haven't talked after all the times I have been there for her in the past. I'm respecting her wish and not calling her. Ladies? Do you think she'll ever forgive me and call me. I really miss her
2006-07-14 04:58:58 · 44 answers · asked by manoyie1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my gosh..Why are you still single??? I love your quote about being a better man because of the women who put up with you from your 360 page! Humility is SO attractive. If she asked you not to call, don't pressure her but I agree that flowers and a note would be thoughtful. If she doesn't respond, wait a week and send another note and every week thereafter..be persistent because it lets her know you are serious and you think she is worth it. Or a text message maybe? Don't make excuses..be accountable and apologetic. But be a man not a whiner. Whining is a huge turn-off and so is blaming. Make it about her. I think she'll come around. How can you resist someone who obviously cares so much?? Good luck! Oh yeah, she doesn't like to talk to you when you are drinking because she knows that isn't the best you..she feels like you are better than that and it hurts her to see you living below your potential..Rise above..be the best you!
2006-07-14 05:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Taylor 2 · 11⤊ 2⤋
I think that what might be in order is not a phone call but a letter or an e-mail. She doesn't want to hear from you right now - and you should respect her wishes, but at the same time if you want to explain to her the circumstances behind what happened you should just lay it all out there!
It's hard to say whether or not she'll forgive you. For some women, a drunken phone call would just be something she can laugh off. But for others, alcohol is something that they won't tolerate because they have such strong feelings about it.
If you are sincere in your letter and you are really making an effort to ensure that it won't happen again, I think the chances are good that she'll forgive you. Good luck!
2006-07-14 05:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is not easy to resolve, but as best friends you can do something to restore your chances. Since it appears that you said hurtful things you need to resolve this in person. Look at what you did and not what caused you to do this. With other words: how did you contribute to this?
Then, don't call her---go to see her. You might have to make several attempts to catch her, but it seems worth it, right? Once you got her, ask her to please listen to you.
When you got to that point, the first thing you need to do is apologize for your behavior on the phone, explaining her that you were pretty drunk and stupid. Next, explain her what you wrote here: that you had always wished to have more than just best friends-so tell her that and how you feel about her. You need to make sure that you are calm, that you stay calm, and that there are no accusations whatsoever!!
If your friend truly cares, then she will listen to you and your amends--after you finished telling her, encourage her to tell you exactly how she felt about the phone conversation, and then encourage her to tell you how she FEELS about you. All this can lead to 2 things: either she listens to you and forgives you, or she won't listen--meaning she won't forgive you. But in any case, you know in your heart that you have done everything you could in order to get her forgiveness.
As far as the drinking goes: you might want to consider what happened while you were drunk for the future. Ask yourself why you feel the need to get drunk when you drink. Because that might help you evaluate yourself and change things around for the better in the future.....Good Luck
2006-07-14 05:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter. If you take the time to write a very heartfelt letter about your missing the friendship and apologizing for your stupid behavior, most likely she will call you and want to be friends again. If you do this, DO NOT call her ever again and let her make the first move back to you. It might be a good idea to write down your feelings as well...since honesty is the only way to get over an issue among friends.
Good luck!
2006-07-14 05:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by BlondeBooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen i know how u feel. but all u have 2 do is call her or the next time u see her and tell her that u were drunk and u diddnt mean the things that u said. if she is still mad at u then ask her what can u do 2 be her friend again? if she says nothing then tell her that u just got drunk bcause of youre roomate and that he was a bad influence on u... just hug her and tell her that u r REALLY REALLY SORRY.
2006-07-14 05:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by babi gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the cost of that party was a great deal more than you expected to pay.
Getting drunk is never a good idea. If you have not stopped drinking, then your friend shouldn't trust you again.
Insanity is continuing to do the same things but hoping for different results.
2006-07-14 05:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You disrespected her wishes by calling her when you were drunk. If you regret that act, you should send her a note of apology and tell her you understand her perspective. Tell her you won't behave that way again and that you really miss her. Tell her that she is important to you and you're very sorry that you offended her. Do not explain your actions, just accept that you were wrong to say what you did and understand that she doesn't trust that you won't do that again. Then, do nothing but wait, it's her responsibility to reach out to you.
2006-07-14 05:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by daca_moracca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how much she really cared for you in the first place. If she really loves you, eventually she will get over it and forgive you, unless this has been a consistent problem in the past, which you "think" you have recently conquered. On the other hand, if she didn`t love you as much as you love her, then this is probably the excuse she has been looking for to get you out of her life. She may not even have known it until now.
2006-07-14 05:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by lrod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the extent of your language. If you were harsh to her then it will take a while for her to get over it. Explain that it was alcohol talking. She knows that you like her and sometimes emotions blow of out proportion when boz are involved. Apoligize over and over and that you will not call her again in a drunken stupper....make sure that your friends are aware of your arrangement with her so they can screen your thoughts of ever doing this again. She sounds like she is a good person and will prob forgive you....eventually! Good luck
2006-07-14 05:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably won't call you. try writing a letter say how sorry you are. don't make any excuses for yourself, just beg forgivness, agnolage that the relationship may never be the same but you would be grateful if you could start again and be a friend. try calling in a month but don't badger her. you might have done some irrepairable damage and you might have to accept that the friendship is over and you may need to move on.
2006-07-14 05:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋