I had a guy promise me to take me out recently (don't get me wrong, I was expecting him to either) he even said when he was getting paid and everything and when he would take me. When I IM'd him later to ask him had he made his choice of where we were eating, he asked me was I paying for my share of the dinner. Am I wrong in thinking this or if the man asks a woman out to dinner, he is paying for her and him? I won't go into his personal life, but let's just say he is someone I cannot see myself spending anymore time with him, other than the two times I did see him. I know the answer already but I just want to get other thoughts on this, b/c I already know he is cheap, he told me he wants a woman to always go dutch with him.
2006-07-14 04:51:30 · 16 answers · asked by missjones27 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can I say, that while I like all these answers, I want to stress two things:
1. NO I AM NOT DESPERATE...if you saw my previous statement, I already said i did not expect him to take me to dinner
2. I AM NOT USING ANY MAN FOR A FREE DINNER....only golddiggers do that, i am not a golddigger. I admit I met him twice, and I admit both times were a mistake. But as far as using him for a dinner....please, how can I use any man, that's tacky to me.
2006-07-14 05:19:12 · update #1
Don't go out with this loser again. A guy should try to win you over and paying for a meal is only the first step. Since you said you cannot imagine yourself with him anyway, forget about it. I woudn't have gone in the first place if he expected me to pay, and plus, only asking you on IM is so lame.
2006-07-14 04:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by akc1106 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If the date is dutch, that should be discussed at the moment he asked you to have dinner with him but he didn't bring it up until later. He's a loser. I don't expect my dates to always pick up the check but that is predetermined. More importantly, why would you accept a dinner invitation when "..he is someone (you) cannnot see (yourself) spending anymore time with.."? Are you just trying to use him for a free dinner?
2006-07-14 04:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by daca_moracca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i imagine going Dutch is a thanks to bypass, a minimum of till the courting has been occurring for a even as. it isn't honest that one human being has to pay always. My authentic reason is that there are a large style of Neanderthals obtainable who imagine that in the experience that they purchase a lady a meal, then they're "obligated." it really is the 21st century. we will pay our own way.
2016-12-10 09:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice - DITCH MR. CHEAPIE!! That's terrible - he invited you, so he should pay - only after the relationship settles into something more should he expect you to "go dutch" or even pick up the entire tab. Go find someone who deserves you & will treat you right!!! good luck!
2006-07-14 04:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my good nephew. This is one of the biggest red flags I've read in a long time. He sucks!
2006-07-14 04:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Curi-us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the man should pay eyery thing im 14 and i no that dump hem now he is a skank
2006-07-14 04:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheap witha capital C
Get someone else!!!
Leave CHEAP men for CHEAP women!
2006-07-14 04:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really that DESPERATE???? Girl, he is cheap and you're wasting your own precious time. Get real!
2006-07-14 04:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is more unattractive than being cheap.
2006-07-14 04:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by worldssmallestcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! That is very cheap..If he asked he should pay no if's, and's or but's..
2006-07-14 05:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kristina C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋