I have been doing research for years and I'm trying to find the true answer to why relationships fail. I believe that relationships fail because people do too much lusting or go after people strictly based on looks. Looks fade and can change in a heart beat and personality can change too but not as quickly as someones physical appearance.
2006-07-14 04:46:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!
2006-07-26 20:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a lack of lust could have some outcomes on a courting. actual, many relationships fail because the folk in touch now not keep in recommendations why they fell in love interior the first position. Relationships evolve, even if the folk do not always evolve with it on an similar aspect.
2016-12-10 09:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is one of the factors,but people have different preferences or demands in relationship,maybe financially,sexually,psychologically etc their relationship fails because of too much expectations to each other and found out later on that they did not have the right person that will give them satisfaction for the rest of their life!That is just normal because everything in this world are not permanent we cannot please everybody!Yes the feeling is the most important and not the looks that won't last when you grow old,love won't fade easily as long as both of you understands each other and working out to fix the problems of your relationship!
2006-07-14 04:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why - I know I have been through a few relationships and there are many reasons why it hasn't worked for me - I would say a lot of the above reason as well as yours. It would be nice if we were paired up with a perfect mach. but that just isn't going to happen. It takes a lot of work to make a relationship work and time and patience will only tell if it will work out.
2006-07-14 04:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprisingly, sex has nothing to do with it.
Relationships fail when people care more about their own happiness than their partner's. Period. If your relationship has a fundamentally "me-first" attitude, it means that your partner is someone that you must contend with every day...because YOU are the one taking on the job of making yourself happy, and they are either helping or not helping. The trouble is, when we meet someone who is primarily motivated by self-serving drives, we have no desire to make that person happy...because they seem to have the matter well in hand on their own. Why would we waste our time on someone who will not appreciate our generosity when they simply EXPECT to be made happy?
But when someone forfeits their own happiness for the sake of their partner's, it touches us in a way that is not easily defined. It motivates us to return the favour, thereby providing emotionally for the other person. So they won't be unhappy after all. They just have to stop expecting their happiness to be served to them on a silver platter. It's the expectation, I think, that is the killjoy. If you expect something, it means you stand to be disappointed. And people being what they are, you will no doubt feel the ickiness of disappointment. But when we stop holding our hands out expectantly, and instead start extending our hands in a gesture of generosity of spirit - and our joy is derived from our spouse's happiness - we start seeing the kindnesses of others with honest appreciation. We see these gifts of the spirit for what they truly are.
Trouble is, the world revolves around the "me-me-me" rule. We are told that we'd better get what we can, while we can, or we will never have anything. We learn not to trust other people to be good to us. We are told not to rely on the kindness of strangers. So we distance ourselves one from the other. We learn it from the time we are children, and by the time we are grown into adults, seeking intimate relationships with one another, we have stopped believing that true emotional intimacy is possible. No one trusts anyone enough anymore. Not even their own spouse, who is supposed to be a boon to your life, not another thing to "deal with" every day.
Relationships last when two people agree to put one another's quality of life ahead of their own.
2006-07-18 12:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people do confuse lust for love and when the lust fades they realise there is nothing there.
2006-07-14 04:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships fail because of men. They are never happy with what they have and its like they are born and taught to treat women who love them like crap.
2006-07-14 04:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most relationships begin in lust, and grow into love, but those that do not blossom from lust usually do fal eventually.
2006-07-14 04:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lack of communication is why relationships fail and incompatible personalities.
2006-07-14 04:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by musicfish93 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these are the causes i see to failed relationships,,,,
trust, jealousy, communication
2006-07-14 04:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by Renita M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋