What's a good way to tell someone you're taking a break from dating? Have only gone out a couple of times, but she thinks things are a lot more serious than I do. I've been married, she hasn't, and I think she feels her time's running out! Help!
2006-07-14 04:36:55 · 26 answers · asked by Trooper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell them u dont wanna go wout wit anybody and wanna b single for a while
2006-07-14 04:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all....pleae don't use the terms "taking a break" with her. That suggests you may get back together and if she's all for this relationship...you don't want her hanging on in an unhealthy way. As a woman unfortunately she is going to hurt a little regardless of how it ends. If you really have only been out a few times...tell her the truth. She might struggle with it...but that's the way it goes. Tell her you aren't looking at this the same way she is and that you need some space. Just be honest. Good luck.
2006-07-14 11:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by Madelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're gonna be really busy with Fantasy Football, and you just won't have time for a relationship. Don't discount this, as I've actually pulled it off with great success. I believe the routine works really well for a few reasons:
1) Hopefully, it's true. Fantasy Football is sweet, and requires a lot of time. Telling her a lie would make you feel bad, and you don't need that.
2) It shows her just how serious you are about things. Who's gonna break off a super-serious relationship for something like Fantasy Football? Ultimately, she knows she's getting blown off.
3) It's funny. Great story to tell to your friends. If you ever see her again down the road, you'll probably have a good laugh about things, and you'll surprisingly stand a decent chance of getting more ***.
4) It won't be terribly hard for her to stomach, because she'll just be totally confused and bewildered that, yes, this is in fact actually happening - I'm really being dumped for Fantasy Football.
Best of luck, and let me know how things turn out.
2006-07-14 11:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by edhollawood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really taking a break from dating? or just taking a break from dating her? If it's the latter, then don't be quite THAT honest. Tell her that you can tell she's looking for a more serious relationship and you just aren't. You've been married before and just have no plans on getting married again. If she's looking for a husband, she'll get the picture.
2006-07-14 11:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am always surprised that people find this so difficult. Relationships are built on honesty and trust. You tell her you'd like to sit down for a moment to discuss something - make sure you are alone. It goes like this:
"I've realized you feel for me in a different way than I feel for you. I don't want to hurt you or to lead you to expect anything other than I enjoy spending time with you. I like you, but I am not ready for any kind of serious relationship"
Don't be vague, don't do the 'it's not you it's me' or any other lame stuff. Be kind but firm, and tell her how you feel. Do not be tempted to leave it open ended with "but we can see where we are in a few months". Keep it short, honest and to the point. After that, leave it that if she would simply like to continue as a friend, that she can contact you. And don't expect any sexual relationship without strings from anyone - so if you want to be friends, be just that, and avoid situations that might lead to sex without commitment from you - because if you let that happen, you'll just hurt her feelings.
2006-07-14 11:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. "Hey, I like you, but this just isn't working for me." Tell her that you want to date, but you aren't interested in anything serious right now and if she is looking for something long term she might want to consider seeing other people.
If after that she decides she wants to see you, then she should have no illusions about where the relationship is heading. The truth is always the best idea!!
2006-07-14 11:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to tell her something and soon. The more you put it off, the worse her feeling will be hurt. Don't waste her time with you and there could be someone out for her. Especially when you don't want to be with her.
2006-07-14 11:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Good P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, you want to take a break from dating.
2006-07-14 11:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth. Time will heal her wounds. One thing that will help is if you are honest with her and don't try to string her along.
2006-07-14 11:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you need more time and that you need to take things more slowly. If she respects you, she'll understand. If she throws a hissy fit, you wouldn't want to be with her anyway, would you?
2006-07-14 12:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by mandydc3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest. and don't use the word "break" because it is unclear. say something like.... i'm not interested in having a serious relationship and i feel it would be better if we saw other people.
2006-07-14 11:39:48 · answer #11 · answered by IvebeenAbadbadgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋