Unfortunately, I WAS a jerk, yesterday. I was bored at work and decided to get on messenger and met a nice girl (28 y/o) from the Philippines. Right away she asked if I was married so I told her no so that she wouldn't leave. (I swear I had no intention of trying to hook up with a girl in the Philippines. I am happily married). Well, as the conversation progressed, I began to realize she is one of the most incredible girls that I have ever met. Beautiful, smart, and a great sense of humor and as sweet as can be. I told her this like a dummy and she began to fall for me. Afterwards, she even sent me a e-card saying she hoped to be able to talk again soon and she missed me. I have to admit I couldn't get her out of my mind either. I watched her stay on-line all day today waiting for me to sign on. I didn't want to do any more damage than I've already done so I never contacted her. What should I do to keep from hurting her any more? Tell her the truth or disappear and hope she forgets me?
2006-07-14 04:14:09 · 10 answers · asked by scot f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I swear I didn't have intentions of playing with her emotions. We starting talking about stuff in general but we just "clicked" too well. I have learned my lesson. I won't talk online anymore, especially to women because it's too easy to get attached in this setting. I just want to stop this as soon as possible and with as little damage as possible. I won't tell my wife because she doesn't need to be hurt by it too. I just had one conversation online, nothing more, and it won't happen again.
2006-07-14 04:28:52 · update #1
Thank you all for your advice and the kicks in the balls which I deserved. Browneyes, I especially appreciated your advice. I will not contact her again. In fact, I'm going to cancel this account right now so I won't even be tempted to make things any worse than they already are. I'm hoping that I stopped this early enough so that she won't be that hurt. In the future, when I wanna talk to someone, it will be my wife whom I love.
2006-07-14 06:38:55 · update #2
it's only been one day!!! how hurt can she really get? you best leave it be right now so that she thinks you're a jerk (which is only true AND fair since you've cheated both, your wife and some innocent woman) - she'll forget about you soon enough....the longer you drag it out for, the worse she'll be
there's no need to be justifying and making it worse for her and yourself!!!!
2006-07-14 04:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just leave it alone. You do not need to contact here any further. This will only cause more confused feelings. It is really easy for some people to open up on the Internet and put themselves out there, as she has done with you. The best thing you can do for her is to not have contact with her anymore.
Are you going to tell your wife about this? How long have you been married? Why did you fib in the first place? Are you truly happy?
Please don't hurt either of these women any further.
2006-07-14 04:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by browneyes45506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you got so wrapped up in how incredible she was you didn't want to end your conversates with her , however it is not fair to her not to tell the truth and the truth is that you are married happily married and when the time comes there is going to be a very fortunate man who will walk proud knowing he has her by his side. Please forgive you. I hope that has helped you be good to yourself and the one you love. signed born2damromantic
2006-07-14 04:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by born 2 d-mn romantic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her the truth and she may understand. Just let her know that you weren't planning on the 2 of you "clicking".
If you are honest things can be fixed, but if you continue to lie it will only make things worse.
2006-07-14 05:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth. Hopefully she will understand. But ask yourself this...How happily married are you? Just think, what if this girl wasn't so far away. Hmmmm?
2006-07-14 04:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by sleeplessdreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, that you're married and that you're an a.ss!
While you're at it maybe you should tell your wife that you're flirting around with girls on the internet.
Men! I tell ya....! >:|
2006-07-14 04:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tll her the truth. if you never tell her, she'll keep trying to contact you and that could come between you and your wife.
2006-07-14 04:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by musicfish93 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just say:
" Sorry i should have told you I was married IN THE BEGINING!!!!!"
See this is why you don't lie about those things!!!
2006-07-14 04:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i wa u id tel her the truth before it gets worse
2006-07-14 04:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a jerl.u should tell ur wife.and tell the other girl the truth.she cant do any thing she lives in the phillippines.JERK!!!!
2006-07-14 04:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kayla D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋