Oh my goodness my three year old boy swears!!! How can i get him to stop?

Question

I am seperated from his father and have no way of monitoring what goes on when he is visiting. His dad says he does not swear around him. Occasionally some one will let one slip and a big deal was made I think thats how it started. So now when he gets mad he swears.... He says the f word, stupid and sh it. And he uses the words in the correct context. I've tried ignoring it as the daycare suggested but that doesnt work because when we go visiting and he swears some one always reacted to it. I need to stop this before he starts at the montessori school and gets kicked out. Besides I don't want this to make me seem like a bad parent. What can I do? Time is runnig out.

Answer 1

This kid is learning/hearing it somewhere. Remove or correct that situation. If he is using them in the correct context, than he is hearing them in correct context, not just a slip or two...

When he swears, don't make a big deal out of it. Tell him that these are slang words & you don't sound intelligent when you use them. Use words a baby can understand though.

When you make a big deal out of it, at his age it is a good way to get your attention, or so he thinks.
But, with the attention, you could remove a toy, or something he really likes for a while, or a time out.

My 12 year old thinks it is funny when he does it, but he is mostly good in public. I am going to start charging him 25 cents each time I hear him. But, he will be able to charge me back, so I have to be good too!

Answer 2

Washing his mouth out with soap is an old but most likely still efficient technique.

Might I also suggest, that you sit him down and explain in the simplest terms (seeing as he's three) that some words aren't meant to be used by children. That it is disrespectful and you won't stand for it. Inform him that there will from that point on be punishment if he uses any of the words you just discussed. It's up to you to decide the appropriate punishment.

Also, you should bring the issue to his father's attention. While you don't have control over monitoring the situation you should stress that you both want the same thing, a well rounded son who won't get in trouble for language at school.

And, if all else fails cut out the little bastards tongue!

Answer 3

One of my friend's parents sat him on a stool in the kitchen, and had him say his "word" nonstop for about 4 hours. (Granted, he was 10, so maybe 4 minutes might be more effective)

He got pretty tired of the word.

Also, have you personally told him that "we don't use those words?" All you mentioned was ignoring it, per suggestion of daycare... Perhaps just tell him not to, tell him he can use those words when he's grown up... Something, but let him know you are not okay with that.

Answer 4

Try explaining to him how bad it is.
Don't swear at all, that way you will not accidentally slip around him. Ask his dad to do the same.
Ask everyone you know to not swear around him.
When you are around others let them know not to make a big deal and just ignore it when he says it.
Or, you could just do it the old fashioned way and give him a good spanking when he uses those words, as soon as he says them. He'll stop.

Answer 5

Well, mu niece said the f word once and all i did was take away her favourite toy/book or restrict her from watching telly each time she does it and after a while, she just stops. It will help if adults don't use such words...if you have to curse, change the words ...like F *** becomes FISH or S *** becomes Shucks... u are not being a bad parent by doing this but u are trying to be a good parent ..don't give up..he needs you to keep him in check..sometimes, it's his way of trying to get your attention.....if talking to him helps, try it...good luck!

Answer 6

over him. thats what happens when you come from a broken home. You should have thought about that before bringing up a child in a fatherless home. What did you expect? I am surprised you are so worried about a few cusswords. a person with low moral standards like yourself that would want to raise a child in a dysfunctional home should have more to worry about than a few bad words. With seperated parents, cusswords are the least of this childs future probems.

Answer 7

If you hear him/her swear let him/her know with a firm voice those words are naughty and Don't say them again! if that doesn't work and you catch him/her again ask him/her if he/she remembers what you told him about useing those naughty words if the answer is yes tell him again, that the words are naughty and don't use them again, if the answer is no tell him again. if he/she does it again then you ask him/her if he/she knew those were naughty words if he answers yes tell him/her then you spank them or punish them in a way you find most affective when punishing them (the no snack thing does not count for this kind of bad behavior). make sure to explain that those words are bad because if you or your friends use those words he/she won't understand why they are bad words.

Answer 8

Kids do that. I remember when my son was about 3, he was mad at someone and I heard him say "Fukeer Beech". Someone is talking bad in front of your child and probably thinks it is funny when he does it.
Eventually, he will stop doing it, but you must consistently tell him not to do it and if he persist, put him in the quiet chair.

Answer 9

You would be a bad parent if you weren't trying to do anything about it. Have you explained to your son that it is bad to swear? If he continues you should punish him. Take away privileges or put soap in his mouth.

Answer 10

I would tell him -1 of his favorite toys for tomorrow. Then, when all of his toys are gone, he'll learn. Do it when he's sleeping and the next morning if he asks where it is tell him that his dad came and got it to bring it to his house. Hope this helps!!