I'm conducting a field study to try and prove that the reason 50% of all marriages and relationships fail is because both parties found each other based strongly on physical attraction and not personality. If you can't connect with a person personality wise then all you can really do is stare at each other and admire your looks and the realtionship goes no where. Also when you go strictly by looks you limit your field greatly.
2006-07-14 04:05:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look at this way you have to live longer with someones personality than there looks.
2006-07-14 04:11:33 · update #1
45% of most relationships that are based soley on physical attraction end in separation, unfaithfulness, and or abuse.
2006-07-14 04:15:35 · update #2
Personality!!! I am so disgusted with the smut that is advertised and everyone is falling for it. I not only look for personality, but his conduct, his ethics, his integrity and honor. It is not enough to find someone attracive, there are tons of attrictive people out there. That is lust, not true love.
2006-07-14 04:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The importance of physical attraction is usually very high early in our lives. It generally lessens as we get older and learn more about ourselves and our likes/dislikes. This has great purpose in procreation of the human race at an age when people are in their prime.
Importance of physical attraction also lessens as the relationship moves along. So if in the beginning a person finds someone a 10 on looks and a 5 on personality, the person who once was a 10 to the person starts seeming more like a 5.
If personality and other attraction is more important, someone who is a 7 on looks and a 10 on personality will tend to be a 10 later down the road as well, even if the looks fall to a 5.
If you want a relationship to last and be a good one, I think you HAVE to be attracted mostly because of personality. To me, it's a matter of getting to know someone with your whole head, not just your eyes.
2006-07-14 11:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whilst physical attraction is what brings two people together in the first place, personality is what shines through the most. I have met some of the most beautiful looking people in the world and after getting to know them and finding they have no personality, their beauty suddenly fades. Also, I have met some people who at a first glance, I didn't find physically attractive but then, got to know them and found they have the most beautiful personalities and suddenly, they had become beautiful. I hope this makes sense. So yes, I tend towards personality.....after all, I want to be with someone who I can have the best and worst times with and know that we can rely on each other....sitting across the room and admiring them is an empty way to live.
2006-07-14 11:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by mandydc3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I base very little on looks. At 42 years old I know that looks are not what matter. In the end you have to be compatible, compliment each others personality... you have to have integrity and strength of character. The rest is just gravy.
2006-07-14 11:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a field study? Unbiased? Perhaps one should ask people who are married to answer only. Otherwise, your collected information is useless.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
If you were married, then you would realize that men and women aren't neanderthals. We don't just look at each other, sniff, then hop in the sack, grunt and say, " u ook goot, mawry me."
2006-07-14 11:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both are very important but I would definitely choose personality over looks. And that is true with my current bf( we have been together for six years). I can not imagine myself with a person who is not on my emotional level and is only interested in my physical looks. That is true vise versa too.
2006-07-14 11:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex, and physical attraction alone are poor reasons to get married, and this is the reason why there are so many divorces. It should be out of love and commitment to each other.
2006-07-14 11:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality for sure. You have to be attracted to them physically, too, sure; but its liking them for who they are inside AND out that makes for a good relationship.
That said, I still get smushy in the knees over some guys-they're just so darn hot, lol! But the man I truly love with all my heart I fell in love with from the inside out-we met online first! And I would choose him out of every man in the world. To me he is gorgeous and sexy inside and out.
2006-07-14 11:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by cooperslassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a relationship for two years.
when we first got together it wasn't phisical at all we were just atracted to each others personality, I guess, and now we are phisically atracted to one another because we got to know each other. now that I know him well, I know his type of girl and beleive me I couldn't look like them if I tried most of them look like jennifer conelly if you know who she is. anyway our relationship is good and strong. but I think before you really get into a relationship you should know there personality because looks WILL change and if you REALLY know a person there personality won't change and your relationship should stay strong.
2006-07-14 11:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by shebunkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people get married by more than looks alone, Id bet that 20 % of people get married because they are preganant or already have kids together. Marriage is obsolete.
2006-07-14 11:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by Thumbs Up Fairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋