twice through the year he posts things through the door for him. Why does he do this when he does not even want to see him. My son is 4. He also does not and never has supported him financially.
2006-07-14 03:54:50 · 19 answers · asked by sultrysagittarius 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is to alleviate his guilt and so that he can enter your son's life when he is older I bet.
2006-07-14 03:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sorcha 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sweetheart, if there is any way you can throw his posted stuff back at him, kindly do that. He's not worth it at all. Some men are suppose to be burn at stake for their behaviour. I wonder why he's doing that, without seeing the boy. I have the same problem with the father of my son too, who is equally useless and irresponsible, and does not even send anything to him ,but I have to take on the full responsible of caring for the boy all alone, for the past 4yrs(He's 4yrs also).
God will be with you(if you belief in him) and help you to shoulder all responsibility on your son. Just look very well before you leap next time, so that you will not fall into the same dungeon of guys like your son's father. Let him continue to run and hide but he cannot run away from himself. Tell him to go eat his stuffs next time he send things, I even doubt if that stuffs can be valuable.
Anyway, my Sis, you're not alone. Smile and move on with your life, If you belief, you will find someone reasonable and responsible one day, that will be a real father to your son. Cherio.
2006-07-14 11:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by dadadoddle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cSounds like you need to talk to him about this. He obviously wants the child to know who he is but doesn't want to put in the time. This isn't healthy or a good influence for your son. Maybe try to arrange a time, once a week or even once a month that your son can see his father. Don't know the fathers financial arrangement but he should be paying child support if he is acknowledging the child is his.
2006-07-19 06:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by jinglebells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sons father done the same thing,he wanted no responsibility but wanted to be part of his life,i tried my best to let him be part of my sons life and never asked for money or anything but every time we arranged for him to meet his son he had an excuse or just didn't bother to turn up so i put a stop to it as it was upsetting my son being messed about ,i cut all ties sent all presents back to him,i will give my son all the info i have on his father when he is old enough if he wants to see him, i even answer my sons questions when he has any about his father(which is not often).(my son is 10 yrs now)i hope my son never wants anything to do with his father ever but it is his choice and i will not try to put him off,my sons father now lives with a woman who has 7 kids the youngest being the same age as my son they are not his kids but he spend time and supports her kids,i cant answer your question about why your sons father does this as i don't know why my sons father does the same,i guess some men are just immature! ,tell the dad either he wants responsibility or he doesn't,if he wont give you a straight answer cut all ties and send gifts back,let your son decide if he wants to know him when he is old enough.hope this helps and good luck for the future.
2006-07-18 04:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by helen r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that.
Maybe he is just posting stuff tho the door so in years to come and his son goes looking for him, he can turn round and say hey i did give u a card on every occasion as sad as it is, but these things have been known to happy so they can always say they ain't the bad one in it all.
If this upsets you and your son does not know who is father is (to speak to) then i would just keep the cards and put them away don't throw them out just keep them in a box.
I personally would not let him see my son since he didn't want anything to do with him, and ain't supporting him in anyway.
At the end of the day tho its your son's choice.
2006-07-14 11:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly w! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe this is his way of not feeling all of the guilt, He can say Hey I gave the kid a B-day present what else does he want, not thinking about love, support a father figure a friend, abuddy a dad. It is just in his nature. Hopefully your son wuill realize when he gets older that he can't buy his love. Good luck and just remember you are the one who tucks your son in at night and feeds and clothes him and he will always love you for that.
2006-07-14 11:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by mrsdamico22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son will be better off not recieving these cards etc,if he can pay for a card he can pay for his son,s upbringing.,he sound s a total waste of space,i have a step son and his father does the same,arranges to see him then cancels,kids head was getting mashed up[8yrs old] and in the end i gave his father 3 chances to sort it out,guess what he never did,so i banned him from seeing him.now my stepson is a happy little boy and his head is a lot clearer and not mashed up.he dont need a waste of space of a so called father,
your son dont need his father or to be treated the way he gets treated by him,he b better off without and after all he has you and all the love you can give him he,ll be happier.
2006-07-21 08:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by irlamboyo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to still be a part of your son's life without having any responsibilities whatsoever. He is a selfish person and does not deserve a son. I would post the things back to him before your little boy sees them. The little boy does not deserve to be treated like that!
2006-07-14 11:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Turbot Face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does want something to do with him. I just think this sounds like an immature jerk that doesnt want the responsibilities of a young child. So he makes sure he does just enough to let his son know hes there. And i bet once hes older and the hard part of raising him is over he'll come around and thats when you need to let him know its too late!
2006-07-14 11:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by ashleygravley_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell himthat you dont want your son to see this man walking in and out of his life not really noing who it is because when his older you and the father have some answers to being your son.
2006-07-15 16:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by miz_roudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think that's wrong.I think every ones entitled to make the choice whether to or weather not to see their child but no messing around.Its cruel.Children will adapt to most situations as long as things are stable at home.But messing about.No.
2006-07-14 11:02:31 · answer #11 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋