i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now..and he still doesnt want to move in with me because he says i bicker too much... but we bicker because we never see each other or spend time wtih each other...
when should i start to ask myself if i'm wasting my time or if it's worth staying onto?
2006-07-14 03:32:53 · 25 answers · asked by racingurl37 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he's right and u do bicker a lot. then it means he's just in the rel until he finds someone new. my advice is for u to change if not u'll he'll be leaving u cos if he cant move in with u how can he marry u eventually
2006-07-14 03:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by moment 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, it's been 4 years. Enough has already been enough. You too bicker because yall don't spend enough time with each other, but he says that he won't move in with you because you bicker too much. He needs a reality check. He's making exscuses, there's got to be a real reason why he won't move in with you. Maybe you should just move on and not care about him moving in. You should tell him why you bicker. You ought to say is if I bicker too much, find someone who dosen't bicker and bicker about wanting to spend more time with you. Even though I kinda think that the one girl is right too about girlfriends and boyfriends just dating not moving in with each other. The choose is yours.
2006-07-14 10:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but why would you want your "boyfriend" to move in with you if he hasn't even asked you to marry him? Boyfriends and girlfriends date; they do not "move in" together. If you are dating and have been dating for four years and your boyfriend still does not want to marry you------which means, he does not want to spend the rest of his life with you------then I would probably get the hint that you're not the woman he sees in his life or as the mother of his children. I would think that he's not willing to accept your habits and mannerisms.
When men and women "move in" together without being married, the woman simply becomes a "live in prostitute," which is simply a business arrangement. If you're wanting a more permanent relationship, try not seeing you and your boyfriend as a "business arrangement."
2006-07-14 10:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Done. You should be done and move on. It sounds like an easy and simplistic answer but after four years, people should feel comfortable with each other, i mean you would think of moving in even earlier than that. I mean he is still looking for freedom which isn't a good sign.
2006-07-14 10:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by treader1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say it's been four years, it's best that the both of you go your own separate ways there's more to life than waiting on your boyfriend to move in. Be realistic is this the way you want to live your life? Find someone who will love you for you. In the meantime be on your own and get yourself back on track. Do what ever makes you happy, and most important follow your heart it'll lead you in the right direction trust me it's always worked for me. It's not always easy but the sooner you admit to yourself that your not happy act on it. Live your life based on you and your happiness not anyone elses.
2006-07-14 10:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you bicker too much? And is that some thing you need to change yourself for the better, or is it just an excuse for him?
2006-07-14 10:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just about now- Its obvious that he doesn't want to take the relationship to the next level. And if he refuses to commit to it why should you waste your time to force something that is not meant to be. Move on and find someone better that is willing to be with you in a real relationship.
2006-07-14 10:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship. He is still not sure if you are " the one " so move on and find some one who is. And I recommend to books for you. He is Just Not That in to You and Why Men Love Bitches. They helped me get out of a similar situation.
2006-07-14 10:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by jennie7562 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...now would be a good start. Focus on marriage, not living together. If you are living together, where's the motivation to buy the cow when the milk is free? Step back and evaluate where you are going and where you want to be.
2006-07-14 10:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait...wait...wait...okay, now, now is the time that enough is enough...move on, you already know, you asked the question because you know the answer, you just don't want to accept it...so, leave now or waste more years of your life while you could be finding someone who loves you...
2006-07-14 10:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋