He's 50, I'm 46. We had been seeing each other for nine months, we did not live together, we did not have an argument, he hadn't contacted me in 5 days, wouldn't answer my phone calls, so I sent him an email asking why he wasn't speaking to me and what I might have done, expressing my feelings for him. I asked him how he felt about me. His response was an email saying that asking him how he felt about me was backing him into a corner and that the relationship was over.
2006-07-14 03:26:54 · 42 answers · asked by hefracturedmyheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he is afraid to commit and took the easy way out by pointing the finger at you for pressuring him...I myself feel your question was not asking to much to have backed him into a corner...so I'd have to say he just didn't want a sincere relationship and used this circumstance as an excuse to back out of this one.
2006-07-14 03:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
I'd say that for 50 years old, he'es very immature. Go out and find someone your own age ( mentally , and psychologically ).
It's a good thing that you found out only 9 months into the relationship, it could have been a whole lot worse.
His response of "backing him into a corner" over a simple question is a sign that he just didn't know what else to say to you.
Sounds like you caught him off guard. But still, for a 50 year old man, that was a very lame response
I'd say good riddance. Who needs that kind of person in their life?
If he couldn't even answer THAT, what else could he not respond to?
Good luck !
2006-07-14 03:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He replied in response to your email - but I think his entire behaviour was very immature (sounds like the response of a 20something year guy). You may have gotten more information from him, if you had gone over to his home to chat (if he was around) about what was going on over the past days and the status of things between you. If you really feel the need for an explanation, you can still try to meet him to find out, but I think its a good thing this happened because now you see what his true personality reallly is. YUCK!
2006-07-14 03:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS HORRABLE! I am so sorry that he treated you like that. Breaking up over email or vm is never ok! With in the first three months I feel it can be done over the phone but after that in person only.
Guess men never get over that commitment BS and thinking the way to resolve it is not call you for 4-5 days. Jerks!
2006-07-14 03:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by jennie7562 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a sense, he was just replying to your question.
It was by coincidence, and to his advantage, to use the e-mail as an escape from talking face to face.
Sometimes writing is the best way to express what you are feeling.
But I don't think it's a good way getting out of a relationship.
I would call him (or send him another e-mail if he doesn't pick up) and let him know that you want to talk.
You can't force him to want to be with you, but you need better resolution than that.
As a human, you deserve that much.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-14 03:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Frankie J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up by e-mail is the most cowardly act in the history of dating. And from a 50 year old man, to boot. For shame.
2006-07-14 03:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by anthonydavidpirtle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girly you want to lose this loser. Any guy who treats you this way and cant look to make up his ideas about no matter if he needs a courting isn't any guy in any respect! Calling you names in common words shows that he has no understand for you and it is actual unacceptable! this isn't some thing more advantageous than a ideas recreation performed with the help of a perplexed toddler. Ditch this jerk and finally end up a actual guy who's okay to dedicate to a suited, magnificent lady jointly with your self. you've a lot to furnish, dont waste it in this jerk!
2016-11-02 01:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like to me ... he is chicken poop, can't stand up and be a real man. It's time you move on down the road.... you do not want to be around someone like that. That reminds me of what a 11 or 12 yr. old child would do in school to break up with someone. You can do better, and deserve better. Sounds to be like he might have someone else on the side already.
2006-07-14 03:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by tnsmuck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes 50?????? He is acting like some jack the lad in his 20s. Mind you they never grow up and the majority are cowards. This is why women are the stronger sex! Its pitiful really, feel sorry for him that he doesnt have the guts to talk to you face to face. pick yourself up, get a new haircut some new clothes and go out and enjoy yourself he will probaly come running back in a few weeks. Did you reply to him??
2006-07-14 03:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by akaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's ridiculous. He's 50 years old, not 15. He should have done it in person or at least given you some kind of clue other than ignoring you. How immature.
Good God, is this how men are still going to be even in their 50's?
2006-07-14 03:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let go of him completely-real men do not treat women this way-think about all the other red flags you dismissed and see how it all added up to reveal a 50 yr male who never grew up
2006-07-14 03:32:36 · answer #11 · answered by appo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋