I have been with this guy for 2 years and we are ahppy, but I have thoughts of not loving him and they are just thoughts not feelings. But I dont know how to make them go away, I have thought of breaking it off, but every time I think of being without him I get so heartbroken and I cry!!! Should I find a way to block the toughts or what?
2006-07-14 03:25:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't love any one person at every moment, it is completely natural, don't worry about it. I think you just feel guilty, but it is normal.
2006-07-14 03:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should try to think of why you love him, make a list (I know....corny...but it works for me). Do you love him because he is kind and caring, respectful, makes you laugh, makes you feel special, etc. You might realize things about him that you have forgotten about over time. Or do you "love" him because you should love a man you have been with for 2 years and it has become a routine? Nothing wrong with not loving someone after time but you need to know if your love is real or you just say you love him because the thought of being alone is scary. Caring for someone and loving them in a way that is enough for a relationship are different. Another thing would be to try to mix up your relationship a little. After 2 years I bet you are in a pretty solid routine. Try going to new places, a new hobby you can do toether, etc. Rekindle the love! Good luck!
2006-07-14 03:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by saramah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really block your thoughts or feelings...why don't you just explain to him that you would like to take a little break...maybe not see so much of him and then take that time to sort your feelings out. Have you thought about dating around? Just because you date other people doesn't mean that you have to sleep with them...maybe you could try this. The important thing is to be honest with your boyfriend....if you let him know how and what your feeling...maybe you can work your issues out together.
Good Luck!
2006-07-14 03:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, everybody has a crisis of conscience about their partner, did myself, coincidentally about 2 years into the relationship. I think personally that this is a "I wonder if something better" thought that all humans have at sometime, God only knows, just don't do what I did and split with my partner before I was sure. Trust me, the grass is not always greener and you usually do regret it!
2006-07-14 03:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by waftycrank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should stay with him. or just break up for awhile to see how you really feel but dont play games with him cause you might loose him just remeber its your life and if you love someone that much then your thoughts are just thought remeber mind body and heart are three different things just because your heart says something doesnt mean the body goes with it and just because your mind think you shouldnt your body might want it just figure out whats more important mind body or heart and the rest will follow
2006-07-14 03:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by athena c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to be leave him then do it even if it does make you cry and you are going to if you really care about him, the reason you are crying is because you are worried about him and that is O.K.
So if you want to move on then do it but if you are not sure take the time out and think about it. DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU!!!!
2006-07-14 03:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by jentn2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you love him, or at least really into him.
The thoughts probalby really have nothing to do with him, but you.
There has to be something else you want that is making you think these thoughts. Think about what it is that causes these other thoughts.
2006-07-14 03:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by RomanGOD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear,if your not sure then i would recommend getting out of the relationship cause if stuff like that is running through your mind then you will always be thinking about them,think about getting someone else is my solution to you then maybe the feelings about him may dissapear and you will focus your thoughts about the new guy.good luck.
2006-07-14 03:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to block the thought's.But as long as there just thoughts then there's nothing wrong.just don't act on ur thoughts.good luck
2006-07-14 03:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can tell him.. he might find a way to chase those thoughts once and for all.. or you can take sometime apart to really see what it's like.. there's a reason you're having those thoughts.. try to find that out
2006-07-14 03:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ninja CK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋