my boyfriend?

Question

i just read my boyfriend's emal on his sent page and he wrote back to his x-girlfriend and said family is well, i am not..p.s. wish you were here!!! she lives in england and she knows he is with me for 3 years with a 5 month old son..i dont know what to think about what we wrote!!! everytime, i get mad at him, i tell him i want to leave and then he says no way, we are connected now because of our 5 month old son, i will not let you leavem I love you!!!....so i dont know what to make of what he wrote, Am i just overreacting?

Sorry i meant to put this in the realtionship section...sorry..but considering i have 2 kids...i guess its o.k.

they are good friends

i can not go back in and read what she may write back as i signed out and do not know his password...and i dont want to let him know i am spying on him

Answer 1

I would confront him with it.....i am SO curious on what he could say to defend himself. That is ridiculous. no you are not overreacting. leave him!

Answer 2

You need to sit down alone and weigh out your options. Are you willing to endure the relationship and constantly be on the lookout for him cheating, just so your son can grow up living with both parents? I recommend you make up your mind know, while your child is still very young. My friend has two children. Their parents split when the oldest was 5. She is still in counseling b/c the mother kept her away from the father for 2 years. The other one was only 6 months when the parents separated, 3 when she seen her father, and she has no psychological problems. This man can not control you just because you have a child together. He sounds like he may be dangerous. I would leave him. Also, don't be mad @ his ex... She didn't make him that write to her!

Answer 3

I would confront his ***! What does he mean family is well and he isn't find out what that means! Also he could be saying these things to you cause he doesn't want to go through a big custody battle etc etc. Don't jump to conclusions though I would be watchful, but ask a few really good questions. Also I would maybe wait first and read her response. And then his reply! Then you'll have more to go on cause that isn't a whole lot really.

Answer 4

Just because u have a kid together does not mean u have to stay with him. i am a single mother. Yes it is hard, but I would not be with this guy just because of my daughter. we are both better off without him. You need to do what u think is right and what your heart is telling you. I can be here as a friend if u want to vent. But if he is cheating on you, u can leave him. Do not let him suck up to u.Stay Strong. HUGS

Answer 5

You have to sit your boyfriend down and talk to him. I believe that if a man still misses his ex, that means he's still in love with her, your relationship may be going through a turbulent times. Though, you dont need to be sniffing around his things, but girls do that atimes when they have doubt about who they were going out with. There is an adage in my town that says, "what you dont see dont irritate you". If you can sit him down and talk things over with him or ask him why he still misses his ex or what you have done wrong, maybe, he would be able to come out straight.

But, if you see that you cant cope, my dear opt out,connected or not connected!, he cannot eat his cake and at the same time have it. 'Oh Guys are the same all over the world!!!!

Answer 6

I have spyed on my husband and told him I did when I would find somthing I didn't like. He can't lie and say he didn't do it. You know he did it and it's up to you to decide what to do. If it were me I would have a knock down trag out fight. That is DISRESPECT to you and your child. If he isn't fine with you and the baby tell him to get the hell out and go somewhere the will make if fine. You have total control of this situation. It doesn't matter if they are "friends" They wouldn't be friends anymore, if it were me.

Answer 7

wow in this situation I really don't know what I would do either! He shouldn't be writing things like that, especially to his ex. I don't think that you are over reacting at all, but I think that you might need to talk to him. I know that you have a baby now with him, but you need to think what is in the best interest for that baby. If he is writing to her and she is so far away, is he talking to other people that are much closer or approachable... I wish that I knew what to tell you... Good luck, and be strong!~

Answer 8

Try:

http://dating.about.com/od/justforthegals/qt/HesNotIntoYou.htm

Answer 9

First off you should not have been reading his email unless he has given you a reason not to trust him. Second, I would confront him on this email.Tell him that yes you were wrong to read his email and that you understand his anger at that but that it seems you two have a bigger problem. Good Luck.

Answer 10

i would leave him, he has no connection with you he has a connection with his son, he does not own you, you have a right to be happy too. i would ? him on what he wrote and see what happens, and tell him if he loves you then give you his password, there should be no secrets between either of you, me and my boyfriend have access to each others account on the puter

Answer 11

Ask him about the e-mail and then ask why he won't let you leave the relationship, and if he can't give u a good answer, leave him. As long as u can take can of ur baby u should be fine. Good Luck!