I need help please. Name good anti-depressants or whatever they are called and their help and side-effects?

Question

I am a girl who has been successful in life. I can say I am pretty. I am a good student. I am not wealthy but stable. I have a good family. But I am emotionally unstable. With all these positive traits I have in my life I have a huge inferiority complex. I get mood swings. I have no tolerance to people nor my family. I have strong feelings of hate, bitterness and dislike. I can't forget my whole past and still carry with some burdens. I am being a burden to my family. I really have no friends, I am an hypocrite with everyone because deep inside me I dislike them. I have realized I am not enjoying life to the fullest, and I need some serious help. Years ago I went to a physiologist, when I was in 9 and 10 grade but stopped going because I felt better, but I realized that even if I am 19ys old and have matured I still have issues. I always criticized pills. I have though about it a couple of times. Mom doesn't want me to depend on them cause she says she knows a friend who can't go out wi

she can't live the house without them. Now I am considering taken them. It's like my last alternative. Religion isn't helping, it could help if I compromise but I need something quick and easy like taking pills. I suffer a lot from stress,anxiety and anger. Are there any good medications available. Did it changed your life? What are their side effects? I am thinking of going back to the physiologist. I can't live like this anymore.

Answer 1

You sound very much like a normal 19-year old girl to me! Please try not to worry too much about how you are feeling, and concentrate on taking a more laid-back attitude about things. You only need anti-depressants if you are "clinically depressed", and if you were that you probably couldn't be bothered even to come on to this website. There are no anti-depressants without side effects - I know - I've been on them a couple of times. Life's too short to be worrying about yourself. My daughter was killed in a car accident at the age of 19 ... see http://www.lionelbeck.net/jackie.htm ... and I hate to think of another 19 year old girl not living life to the full. All these feelings and issues you describe are part of being a member of the human race. Sorry it's so difficult, but it will get easier, especially if you try concentrating on other people's needs rather than your own. If all else fails, please see your doctor before trying to get hold of any anti-depressants by other means (recommended or otherwise). This answer is given to you with love and best wishes for your future happiness.

Answer 2

I suggest going back to see a doctor to have someone to talk to at least once a week to start and maybe later you could go less often if you feel better. Take care regarding the meds. They are not always the answer. It's best to first try to talk things out and let it all come out to the surface.

If you are not exercising already then I would recommend it. Kickboxing classes are a great way to release the negative emotions you mentioned and build up your self-esteem, and you may meet some really nice people. It helped me get rid of some anger and I made new friends, which in and of itself helped me a lot. Throw in some light weight lifting and end off with yoga to calm you. Not only can exercise help you with your depression now it's a great investment in your body (and mind!)

Good luck!

Answer 3

To me, it sounds like a combination of a mood stabilizer (like lamictal) and an anti-depressant (like Prozac), plus therapy would be the best route for you.

Why? Because, the pills will help you stabilize in the short run, but you will need the therapy to help change your thought patterns and the way you deal with things in the long run. After years of being depressed or having mood swings, you learn to behave and think a certain way. Medications can help alleviate this and make you feel better, but without the therapy to change the way you think, you will just drive yourself back into an unstable state.

So, you don't have to take drugs forever and they are not THE solution, just part of the solution.

In the meantime, try St. John's Wort.

Answer 4

go back to a dr and get help. see if you have an in balance in your brain. I have anxiety, mood swings, panic attacks and crying spells. nerve pills have helped me some my family says. I am calmer. but I took effexer xr and gained 60 pounds, that was more depressing so I changed medicine to Prozac and it helps. Prozac can not be taken in younger people. I am 45. it has side effects in young people in the teens, so ask a dr for something else. there are alot of new ones on the market. good luck.. prayers to you. maybe just a talk support group might help also.

Answer 5

This is going to sound strange, but in addition to whatever other help you may seek, you may want to try --- rather, commit yourself to --- a shift in diet. Research is showing that dark chocolate (not milk chocolate) dramatically impacts mood and depression in clinical trials. This is, they believe, due to its Serotonin levels and specialized fatty acids. Combine this with other trials in which Omega 3 fatty acids are resulting in rapid discoveries of mood and depression benefits, and you're on a roll. Omega 3's normally come from fish oil (ick), and must be carefully consumed to avoid mercury poisoning. However, there is at least one dark chocolate product which has been developed for diabetics which contains Omega 3's (no mercury), Serotonin, and all the Flavinols of cocoa. Bottom line, you can probably make a greater impact on your difficulties than any doctor or drug can without your help.

Answer 6

I’d be careful about trying to find the answer in a magic pill. They can be temporary helps in an emergency but ultimately there is no substitute for working through these issues yourself.

Sounds like a couple of things are going on. First you probably have some repressed memories that are surfacing in these emotional swings. More psychological therapy could help to bring these to the surface in order to help understand them and let them go.

You might want to investigate The Rosen Method which also has a tint of psychology in its method. The Rosen Method is a form of body work that facilitates the awareness of body tension. Rosen practitioners believe that all our emotions and experiences are stored in the body via tensions, and that by becoming aware of these tensions we can understand and release them. Just internet search it and you'll find it. It's a bit cultish, but also can be very powerful. I had an experience that I can only describe as mystical in its effect.

Other things I would suggest are meditation and yoga. Meditation helps to increase your awareness and gives you a greater control over the self. There is a saying, that he/she who can control the self can control the world. I suggest buying some books on the matter and there are many. But I’ll give you a couple of good meditations you can do for now.

The center piece to all meditation is the breath. It is our life line to this earth. It is all too easy to remain up in your head which throws us at of touch with reality. Wherever you chose to do this, whether it is waiting in line at a bank, walking to class, sitting in your house, floating on your back in the pool, or in some ashram, it doesn't matter. Just allow yourself to stop the internal dialog. You will naturally have thoughts come up but do not be attached to them; Just let them move on and continue your breathing. You do not have to control the breath but merely watch it. Usually as you watch the breath it naturally deepens which has health benefits to the body and mind. Practice this every day trying to increase the amount of time you can go without having to indulge the mind to think.

When you have gained some aptitude in this, try incorporating the meditation of loving kindness. Imagine four people in succession. Imagine someone you feel indifferent to, someone you have problems with, someone you deeply care about, and finally yourself as happy, healthy and enlightened. Imagine them with smiles on their glowing faces; Have them surrounded in auras of white light. Maybe have a bit of wind blowing in their hair as the stand tall and erect.

The most important aspect is that you can feel happiness, healthy and enlightened. If you can accomplish this feeling along with a good mental image the energy will find its recipients. What you are doing is projecting your thoughts and emotions, which are energy, at the various recipients, including yourself. Remember, energy follows thought. Have Faith, and by doing so you will exponentially increase the odds of this having a positive effect.

Whatever you project out will come back to you so you will find yourself becoming happier, healthier, and more enlightened. That is the goal right? If you take what I have said to heart I would be vary surprised if you do not find the results you are looking for. In Agape (spiritual love) I write these words. I will hold you in the light. See if you can catch the wave.


P.S. in regards to the comments below you can get omega threes in greater quantities than fish oil through flax oil and or its seeds. Not only are the omega three quantities increased and it does not rancidify as easily as fish oil, or have toxins from the ocean, it is also a more compassionate food choice. And if you are wondering about the source, know that I own a health food store. And yes, you should use a holistic approach to getting better. No one thing is going to be a magic bullet to cure all ills. You must make the choice to change your over all lifestyle, organically evolving as your life changes.

Answer 7

Antidepressants work. Absolutely, definitely, for sure. I've been on antidepressants for a few years now, and -- joy of joys! -- I haven't attempted suicide since!

But keep in mind that some work better for some people, and others work better for others. It might take awhile to find exactly which antidepressant works for you, and what dosage is best.

Here's a basic overview:

SSRI's increase your serotinin level. They include Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Paxil, and Lexapro.

DRI's increase your level of dopamine. A common DRI is Wellbutrin.

Some drugs affect your level of norephineprine. These include Effexor and Zyban.

Talk to your doctor, and keep trying different meds until you find the one that works best for you. And keep you spirits up, and best you can!

Good luck!

Answer 8

You need a Mental Health Professional, NOW. This not the forum for you to be getting help. This is the only way to do this. You have made the first step by understanding your need for help, so get some. Good Luck!

Answer 9

I hear Wellbutrin is good. It is also know as Zyban, the anti-smoking pill. So if you asre a depressed smoker i suggest Wellbutrin

Answer 10

just calm down and enjoy life----there is no better anti-depressant then deciding that you are not going to let it rule you anymore----been through this---then I got cancer---I just wanted to die---but you have to be strong for the people that love you