tx me today saying when he gets back from holiday he wants us to have a chat. weve been apart for a year and havent been in touch at all. usually if weve split up we still stay good mates, he is an amazing person has been ther for me thru so much, he knows me inside out better than anyone else. i dont believe in soulmates but if i did he is definitely mine. we always manage to end up back together weve got a strong connection that cant be broken thats the way it will always be with me and him. i dont want anyone else anyway he is the one for me. im happy and excited he tx me but im scared at the same time of whats hes going to say. do u think him txing me is a good thing??? help!!
2006-07-14 02:48:44 · 4 answers · asked by browneyes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON JUAN- Because as i said we split up a year ago do u not read the question properly!!!
2006-07-14 02:58:46 · update #1
I've got a guy something like this in my life.
We have a connection on a deep level, It's like we know when somethings wrong with eachother, we don't really need words to communicate (and I mean that in a non-sexual way). And if there is such a thing as a soulmate, he's probably mine. We dated for a short peroid of time and have kept in contact on and off ever since. I can tell him anything, and I've always offered a shoulder when he needed one.
That being said, I would never be with him again. While we share a deep connection and a very simmilar outlook on life, things would never work out between he and I. I'm a loyal person, he cheated on me while we dated. I'm the sort of person who stays out of trouble and doesn't have any want to go out and party, he's a drunk who's always into something. I'm pretty much a decisive person when it comes to big issues, he's fickle. After her enlisted, he went from telling me that he bought me a ring (but never actually purposing), to marrying someone else in less than 9 months, and then 3 months after his wedding he and I were talking on line and he dug "my ring" out of his pocket and showed it to me on the web cam. He's talked about the two of us "hooking up" when he gets back in town, knowing full and well that I'm in a wonderful relationship and that he's married.
He's the sort of guy I could have pined away for forever. But I made some very important, logical decisions and moved on. I've been seeing a wonderful man for a year now. He and I don't have that connection so much, but he treats me the the way that I deserve to be treated and I do love him.
Just because someone is always there or you feel connected doesn't mean that they're the right person for you. You have to take into account the person as a whole, and whether you can see yourself with them long term as they are and as you are. Or would you have to change something major about them or about yourself to make it work? Neither is worth it. There have been reasons that things haven't worked out before and if somethign keeps interfering, then there's probably a very good reason for it.
There probably isn't going to be a lot of people who tell you this, but this is one time that you need to think about things logically and not listen to your heart. A heart has a habit of directing you toward something that is good for you in the short term, and we all know that hearts have a way of getting themselves hurt.
I would encourage you to see him, talk to him but be careful. Don't let your heart get involved. Listen to what he's really saying, not just what you want to hear. Then think it over logically, and ask yourself if this is really what you want, and if he's someone who you could remain with permanently. Anything less isn't worth wasting your time on. Life is too short to be in bad relationships. If you can find any reason that would cause things to not work out, move on... and try to do so with a clear conscience. It might hurt you, it might hurt him but keep an eye on how much worse it could be in the future.
2006-07-14 03:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by nobodysangel_nobodysfool 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who knows? Maybe he's going to tell you he's getting married! Don't jump to conclusions. If your affection is so deep for him, it shouldn't matter what he says. Just go see him, listen and stop trying to second-guess. You might set yourself up for alot of pain. Keep it light. Then if it is anything about the relationship you have with him, you'll be excited and you won't be hurt. Just put it out of your mind for a while before you drive yourself crazy!
2006-07-14 02:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its a relationship why has'nt he been in touch for a year. Anyway sounds like you love him and he,s the one for you .Maybe you should tell him your feelings,before you loose him to someone else.Good luck i hope it works out.
2006-07-14 02:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by Don Juan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dats sooo not good
2006-07-14 02:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by broadway_boy7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋