I know this may sound shallow but I have always wanted to marry someone rich because my family is wealthy and I am so accustomed to that sort of life, but I keep *almost* falling for these poor guys that I know I can never be happy with. Please do not criticize my views.... my question only is how is it possible to ensure happiness... I have almost loved so many poor guys that are smart and sweet but my brain always pushes them away...because happiness to me is being ensured with money. (you have to understand my family has never had any debt problems etc.) I dont know how to fix this problem of love being so materialistic without lowering my standards.
2006-07-14 02:45:30 · 23 answers · asked by HistoryMajor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have never ever been in love i say because love is blind and does not let you bring criteria for selection this or that... Money can do many things in our life but not everything, with money you can buy a house but not a home, with money you can buy a book but not knowledge, with money you can buy a bed but not sleep,... so many of other things. And I think, the home is the one you make it yourself not that one which is given to you. Anyway, if you find a smart and lovely boy don't close your heart to him for money, but make sure that he loves you and you love him, that's all.
2006-07-14 02:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mohsen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you actually fall in love money wont matter. Almost falling is not the same as actually roller coaster, cant breathe, heart pounding, would die without you ...love. Men and women from different social classes have always found a way to intertwine. You say you have almost loved so many poor but not once did you speak of someone with money. Are you purposely seeking out men of a lower income bracket because they tend to have traits that you find more attractive than those of someone in your own social class? Just a thought.
2006-07-14 09:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Tamie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to "fix" the problem of love being so materialistic without lowering your standards, because money seems to be one of your standards. So - you either lower your standards and remove the money requirement, or you find someone with money to love. There is no way to ensure happiness with someone - it takes a constant effort on your part to make yourself happy. If you think finding a man with money will make you happy, you will never find happiness - happiness and satisfaction are not having what you want, but wanting what you already have. It's hard to learn life lessons when you have everything handed to you, or you don't have to work hard - I tend to appreciate things more if I have to work for them. Good luck - I do hope you find what your heart is looking for ~
PS - to be fair, money doesn't buy happiness - but neither does lack of it.
2006-07-14 09:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure whether thats a really problem but it happens...its a natural inclination to just think that way coming from your background. I suggest not thinking about money, I mean if you see a guy and you might like him, try not thinking about how much money he has. Try evasion therapy think of something else...
The bottom line is Happiness has nothing to do with money! Especially if you are all alone and no one to share with. It shouldn't matter whether the guy is loaded or not. Like him first... Besides you can always change a guy later :D, woman are good at that... Just believe that he is or will be rich once he his with you!
2006-07-14 09:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Reality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're TOO materialistic! It doesnt mean that your family is rich when you're "debt free". Being happy is being contented with what you have. Loving someone is regardless whether rich or poor and of course, be realistic. YOu wouldn't want to marry a street bum even if you love him. You can still marry or love someone of a lower "class" but someone who can care for his family financially but don't expect the luxuries of life. As long as you're happy and contented!
2006-07-14 09:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by denizen251 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you sound shallow, but love of another is love of another, and love of money is love of money. You grew up wealthy so it's natural for you to want to continue that lifestyle. If you grew up poor, then you would probably want still the wealthy lifestyle. You can't control who or what you love. Try to get to know a person, his ambitions, his heart. You never know, this "poor" guy could make you feel rich in everything but money, he could also soon enough make it big and lavish you with everything you dreamed of. Or the opposite could happen, you could find the "man of your dreams" and he could end up broke a few years down the road. The point is this: learn to fend for yourself so you can hopefully get the things in life you want, when it comes to falling in love-trust your heart.
2006-07-14 09:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by RomanGOD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money can't buy you love or happiness. When you truly fall head over heels in love your heart will override your head.
So follow your heart it won't lie to you. You may well find working for a living quite enjoyable and fulfilling. As they say the best things in life are free!
Another tip Don't go looking for love let it find you!
"DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY"
2006-07-14 10:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by lskee_tt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Poor guys can always work their way up to being rich since you mention they are smart. Rich guys can also turn poor one day if they aren't smart enough, don't you agree?
2006-07-14 09:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck...I don't even know how to respond to what your saying....I've met people like you my whole life, and it makes me furious! Growing up I was one of those "poor" people you look down upon, so I went to college got an education and I now have plenty of financial security.....I know since no-one will ever live up to your standards why don't you just live off of daddy's money!
2006-07-14 09:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shug, i know exactly what you are saying. please, please dont settle for someone who has money but you do not love. i did. and i am miserable for it. i do not know if it is possible to be happy with a guy who has no money. what i do know is that it is very possible to be miserable with a guy who does does have money. what does your family think? are they opposed to you marrying beneath you? i know you have this idea in your head about how it is supposed to be. but what you dont realize is that what it is supposed to be is never what you want it to be. just go with your heart. then you are sure to be happy. money cannot buy that.
2006-07-14 09:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋