How often is too often and since we live together should i feel i can tell him no sometimes, even when i don't want to? I like sex more than he does and i think i provide too much so when he does want it should i be able to say no and risk him being hurt or giving up?
2006-07-14 02:30:52 · 38 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have been together for 1 1/2 years.
2006-07-14 02:33:12 · update #1
it is not that i WANT to withhold it but i want him to really WANT it!
2006-07-14 02:34:11 · update #2
obviously, if he is initiating lovemaking, he wants it, if you want it, go for it!
2006-07-14 02:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by smiths j 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the people, really. There are high maintenance lovers and there are low maintenance lovers, meaning that some need to be serviced a lot while other feel the need only once every few days. You may not want it as much as he does, and maybe he wants it too much, but feel free to state your opinion. Unless both people are fully involved, it really isn't that fun, is it? Plus, guys often want sex more than women, because the effects of sex(i.e. Endorphins, which cause euphoria after sex) wear off much faster. Don't be afraid to tell him no, because the time it takes to have sex every night could equal some awesome bonding time doing an actual activity instead of whiling away your time. It's also good to be respected as a woman, instead of an object and standing up should help affirm that you're not just something to toss around at night.
2016-03-27 04:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like it more...and want it more...why would you want to say no? Just because you can? You are in a relationship dear, not a power struggle. Just relax and enjoy the ride, but if you reaaallllyy don't feel like it, then just tell him. There will be times he doesn't feel like it either. 50/50 some give, & some take neither of you should rule over the bedroom. Have fun! : )
P.S, The more often you give it up,....the longer he will last in bed!! :p
2006-07-14 02:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jim's redheaded girly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you did wrong was having sex too often, now hes expecting it and if you say no hes gonna think something is wrong. If very common in all relationships, you do it a lot at the beginning, then you get bored or you don't wanna it as often. Talk to him, is OK to say no once in a while but don't change dramatically. Remember, communication is very important in relationships.
2006-07-14 02:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by DON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever demanded sex when he didnt want it? The best thing is to be honest with eachother. If he wants it as much as you the you both just f like bunnies, but if either one of you isnt feeling up to it, then agree not to push the subject.
Too much or Too often is when one or both people involved are particiating when they'd rather not..
2006-07-14 02:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by Zachariah D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want. If you want to have lots of sex, have lots of sex. Be yourself, don't hold back on who you are because you're afraid it might freak him out or make him lose interest. If he does then oh well, at least you'll know that you'll need to invest in sex toys or find someone new who can appreciate all the sex...1 1/2 years isn't that long...
2006-07-14 02:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing termed as 'too often' for sex. Keep doing it till either u stop enjoying it or u are dog-tired to go off to sleep.
There's no harm/hazard associated with excessive sex but rather with the lack of it. Its not only a real stress-buster but also a morale-booster.
But one should not do it only to please his/her partner. That can have some serious consequences later on........Ur wish and willingness is of the utmost importance.
A 'NO' means a 'NO' in sex.
So take care swty . ENJOY LIFE with no worries attached
Your well wisher,
krisharora24@yahoo.co.in
2006-07-14 02:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by hot male 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to do it, don't. You don't want sex to become a chore. If you don't feel up to it, the enjoyment won't be in it, either (trust me, I've been there--never have sex with your boyfriend when you're secretly mad at him, lol). You don't want to dicourage him but as someone who doesn't like it too often himself, he might understand you not being up to it.
I'm not living with my boyfriend, but we do it between 3 and 5 times a week (drains my energy but he wants it always). How often is too often for you?
2006-07-14 02:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by R Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk seriously to your man. Without communication the relationship is doomed in the long run. You have to speak your mind in all matters, and so do he. Always talk things through, and agree or agree to disagree in things together..
Nothing is too often or not too often. It is what is normal for you two that is normal for you. Don't mind what others mean..
John
2006-07-14 02:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by Scorpion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know it's all individual, go by your feelings, if you see that he doesn't really wants to do it, don't push, you probably didn't live with each other for too long, give it a little time and you probably woul feel like slowing down little bit yourself. But don't worry guys usually don't get tired of it:)
2006-07-14 02:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by happydial 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't always sey yes. You are not a machine. I'm sure if you say "no I don't feel like it" he will respect your wishes. I mean if you ask me sex is much better when both partners are willing and IN the mood. Good luck with whatever you do.
2006-07-14 02:34:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋