i have been friends with this guy and i got my first kiss with him and since then we have made out quite a bit. i talk to him on the phone quite often and then i normally see him at least once every two weeks now and we normally just make out...but the thing is afterwards ill call him later that day or he'll call me and he always just says we friends right?
i always wind up giving him an unsure answer cause im not too comfortable being just friends meanwhile we do things that people who are just friends wouldnt do. we are technically friends with benefits and i dont like it. i dont know if i should tell him i either wanna have a real relationship with you or i dont wanna make out with you anymore??(i do love kissing him tho)
2006-07-14 02:19:51 · 17 answers · asked by crazi B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well mabe u should tell him how you feel and then tell him why u feel that way because just mabe he might feel the same way but thinks u dont feel that way. So be brave:(
2006-07-14 02:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one. On one hand the kissing is nice, on the other hand you need more and he probably does too! He may be afraid to tell you because he fears being rejected. You should sit down with him and have a serious talk about this if you feel your are ready. But always remain friends, if it goes further always remember that you were friends first and be open and honest always, never hide anything about your feelings for each other, that includes him too or you will end up being enemies. Take it from someone who has been there, I know from first hand experience about this and lost a friend this way.
2006-07-14 02:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by heartless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um yeah, just tell him you want a real relationship and that friendship with benefits is for the birds. If you love kissing him, tell him you and he can easily find other partners to be with. There are tons of fishies in the ocean. This line of friends with benefits is the biggest copp out men can give. It's just not worth it, unless you want to continue hurting yourself. Do your self a favor and move on, but tell him first, maybe he will change.
2006-07-14 02:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by roses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been throught this like u ,, and believe me the couse that make u like it is that he 's just a friend nothing more ,, thats why u feel comfortable with no comitmints no strains no chance that u may get hurt cuz he's not ur bf after all ,, and when ur heart isn't belong to anyone but u than it'll be hard for anyone to hurt u
so, just freinds is much better than going deep to close relation
and if u feel little comfort by the way things are now than don't change ,, what for !! at least u r free
2006-07-14 02:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Nicholet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, this is hilarious, more than likely he is interested in you not for the kisses but what the kisses could lead up to! Especially if he knows your not sexually active or if you are active he wants to indulge! Most of the time if a guy calls you a friend that's all you'll ever be so take the face value he presents to you and if you like kissing him, then continue to kiss him but just remember you are and only ever be "HIS FRIEND"!
2006-07-14 02:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sort of relationship may seem strange to some, but during WWII I met a WAVE, and we made out, but we were friends and we corresponded and talked on the phone for six years until she was married and pregnant. I even went to meet her family and husband. Friendship with physical affection not sex can exist between a man and a woman.
2006-07-14 02:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by ringocox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a relationship with him? If you want to be more than just friends just let him know. Then you will stop being unsure of what to answer. Tell him how you feel about him and ask him whether he shares the same feelings.
2006-07-14 02:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on if you are uncomfortable being involved in a semi-sexual relationship with this guy. If he was interested in a real relationship he wouldn't keep pushing the friends thing.
If you coerce him into a real relationship it is quite likely he will end up cheating on you or inflicting other emotional pain on you.
2006-07-14 02:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by loothor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start dating other people and tell him about it. If he gets jealous then tell him that you would not date other people if you guys were exclusive and see what he says. But if he is not affected by you dating other people then give up and find somebody else; but don't make out with them until it is establish that you are BF and GF.
2006-07-14 02:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your uncomfortable with the relationship of course you should say something. You either want a serious relationship or really just be friends. Be honest about what you want from him.
2006-07-14 02:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be just freinds, I wouldn't make out with him. That is silly that he is experimenting on you and make you feel confused about the relationship. Ask him what exactly does he want from you and also express your feeling, it is your right not to be used.
2006-07-14 02:24:31 · answer #11 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋