Who doesn't belive in dating, because of something read in the Bible?

Question

My parents don't belive in dating becasue of I Corinthians 7:27-"Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Tjhey feel that you should wait for God to send someone and then you both feel that you should marry. I sorta belive this too. What do you think?

I agree with all of y'all. I believe that once you are married you shouldn't get divorced. That is committing adultery. Thanks for y'all's answers.

Answer 1

I became a Christian after my divorce and have dealt with this subject endlessly.
There are a few books that may be good reading and help you understand how people think about it.
One I really liked was "Lady in Waiting" and one by Joshua Harris called: "I kissed Dating Good-Bye". Also, Rob Eagar wrote one about dating.
Last but not least, some of my friends like: Choosing God's Best.

After how many years, here is my conclusion and a little wisdom I've gleaned over the years.

It's better for people to meet while you do activities; whether it's raking leaves with a group or playing volleyball, etc. You get to see how a person really acts. When you're on a date, the person dresses up and acts their best in hopes that they can be intimate with you. Dating means you are all alone and intimate things can happen that should only happen in marriage.

There is a verse that when you are tempted, God gives you a way out. That has been true with me. I've found that I don't want to keep putting myself in situations to be tempted. Like, if you're on a diet, you don't go to the bakery.
So...I have "rules" for myself like not being alone with a man in my house, or any other place that could lead to the wrong thing happening. I'm still single, so I'm not sure how it's working for me!! But, I believe that IF God has someone for me, He will bring Him, but I have to keep my eyes open, etc.

Answer 2

haha they are misusing that verse.
1Co 7:27 -
"Art thou bound unto a wife? - Art thou already married? Marriage is often thus represented as a “tie,” a “bond,” etc.; see the note at Rom_7:2.
Seek not to be loosed - Seek not a “dissolution” (λύσιν lusin) of the connection, either by divorce or by a separation from each other; see the notes on 1Co_7:10-17.
Art thou loosed from a wife? - Art thou unmarried? It should have been rendered “free from” a wife; or art thou single? It does not imply of necessity that the person had been married, though it may have that meaning, and signify those who had been separated from a wife by her death. There is no necessity of supposing that Paul refers to persons who had divorced their wives. So Grotius, Schleusner, Doddridge, etc."
Albert Barnes
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Albert_Barnes

Its talking about ppl that are already married. It has nothing to do with dating.

There is nothing wrong with trusting in God to find you the propper spouse. Though it is doubtful that God will just send that person to your door. You need to go out and activly find them. Now that doesn't mean you have to date a whole bunch of ppl, but you do need to be proactive and actualy meet ppl.

Answer 3

Go on dates! Have a life!

I believe Chorintians 7:27 is about:
1. If you are married, don't get a divorce
2. If you do lose your wife for whatever reason, do not seek another.

This doesn't say that you shouldn't date (not unless you have already been married).

And if you are going to read the bible word for word and believe what it says, it is actually only talking about wives. So if you are a woman, this text is not relevant to you anyway...

Answer 4

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Answer 5

"Loosed from a wife" implies to me a divorce, in which the person has already been married once, and to do so again would be comitting adultery in the Lord's eyes.

I agree that I believe God will send each of us someone, but I don't think we shouldn't have fun looking around and dating in the meantime. I think it will help us learn what to look for, so we'll know that special someone as soon as we find them. :)

Answer 6

The fun thing about the bible is that it is open to interpretaion. To me this passage says not to go looking. God will send someone to you but unless he is wearing a sign saying so, you had better date to see if he is the right one. If not move on. I dont believe in dating if both parties are not seeking marriage. Good luck!!!

Answer 7

You and your parents are moral neanderthals. Get a grip. That damned book was written 2000 years ago, under different circumstances and in a different culture. I am sure it wasn't meant to encompass all peoples.

Court, you've hit the nail on the head. Why do you think so many black people believe in the church. It is the way to avoid taking responsibility for their lives and want to live by some damn moral book. Shame on Them.

Answer 8

The bible says nothing about not dating,the advice it gives is that if you become imflamed with passion then it is better to marry. this will keep you from committing fornication or adultery. Marry someone that is like minded in the faith that you believe in . Can you ever see a jehovah's witness getting married to a muslim? It ain't going to work!!!!!!

Answer 9

Ugh, the bible was written by bigoted sexists. Honestly, that is the LAST place I would look for dating advice. If you think god's just going to send you a husband, think again. You have to do things for yourself and take responsibility for your life instead of relying on invisible sky pixies to do the work for you.

Answer 10

Paul is saying that we are better off single, while acknowledging that not everyone can accept this. You have to take the scripture in the context of the whole chapter. However, it would be wise to listen to and obey your parents, even if you don't agree with them. They are looking out for your best interests.