has anyone else lost a child?

Question

Im haveing a hard time dealing with this.she died almost two years ago when she was 6 days old but it still hurts as bad as it did the day it happened.for I have her identical twin and a 3 year old son iam fightiing to get custody of them i lost them to dfs not for a buse but from my sever depression after that i threw myself in a alcholic rage i have nt had a drink siince febuary and im on medication but my heart is ripped apart i mmiss my children and i want to get better so i can be happy for the other two they are all i have left i think by maybe keeping in touch with other mothers or fathers that have lost a child might help.(my children are due to come home in september)please no ignorant awnsers this is a really a sensitive situation for me.

Answer 1

I'm so very sorry about your loss. Wish I could give you a hug. I lost two children, so I have a sense of what you are going through. You have suffered so much pain, but you need to be strong. You need to start loving YOU, taking good care of yourself, and most of all you need to start giving yourself the gift of peace and happiness.

I hope these sites will bring you comfort:

http://www.babylosskit.com/resources.html
http://www.firstcandle.org/whenababy/when_gr_os.html

Answer 2

Well I only wish the best for you. Remember that you are the whole world of those 2 children. No one can replace a mom. There can be substuites, but you are the real thing. I have 2 of my own and when I wake up and I go to wake them up and they wake up the first thing they do is smile. Now they are 3 and 9 months so I am sure that will change as they get older. But the best way to get happy is to realize that you are their whole world. If your not okay then they are not gonna be okay. That is why you the mom are the first one to develope a realationship with this little person. Trust me I know how stressed you can get on a everyday basis. Kids are hard to raise. I had a miscarriage with my second preg and I hurt, but it would be a totally different if I would have actually had the child. Sometimes when you think to yourself why me....think God only puts on me what I can handle. I am not a realigious person. I believe in God, but praying is the best way. God hears you. He will help you, it just may take some time. He is the only one that is there really for you. Think like this...instead of thinking you lost a child so early....all children go to heaven if they do not understand God...so could you imagine the life your child having. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

I can relate in that I have two children who were born with a terminal illness. They are ages 18 and 19 now and all their lives it has been looming over us, mostly in the background, not overshadowing our lives. Their illness has progressed to the point where it's obvious from an objective point of view that they are seriously sick. They are in the hospital quite often. The way that I have learned to deal with it is that I look for the blessings, such as having the opportunity to see life differently than most people. The small pleasant things are more noticeable and appreciated. I thank God for choosing me to trust with the care of these precious children while they are here on this earth. I've learned many lessons as a result of my lifelong experiences and, although I wouldn't have chosen the cards I was dealt, I am grateful for them. If you want to heal, let yourself. Stay away from the alcohol and any recreational drugs and focus on becoming and staying content with your life and what you have now, experience the good feelings and bad, accept it all. Do what you must to get yourself pointed and heading in the direction that feels right for you. My favorite phrase is, Want what you have and you'll always have what you want. With time, you'll get to where you want to be inside.

Answer 4

time,hun.its never gonna go away completely but will lighten as time goes by. my best friend lost her baby 15 yrs ago when he was only 2mnths and she has some bad days but it WILL get better, i promise. i'm very sorry for your loss. your children need you to be strong for them no matter what so thats what you need to focus on. them and now! here's something that might make it a little easier to understand...
When its time
when its time,whether fast or slow,
I will be ready to go.
When its time, the angels will sing,
And shelter me under their wings.
When its time,please dont cry
For it is not really goodbye.
When its time,we'll be together again,
And YOU will be forgiven for all of your sins.
And when its time,you will see
That this is where we're meant to be

be strong for your children hun. work hard at it and things will get better for you.

Answer 5

YEs I LOST MY CHILD NOT EVEN ONE WEEK AGO I ACTUALLY LOST ALL 5 PREGNANCIES! EVEN THOUGH I WAS DOING ALL I WAS SUPPOSE TO DO.

I HAVE NO HELP WITH THIS AT ALL