... Im confussed i love my first love but... i cant go back after all these years... But why we would he want me back after all these years .. Isnt he happy ? ( wasnt he with his new girl)......
2006-07-14 01:51:05 · 11 answers · asked by ChuLAD3P0nC3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
follow ur heart only u know whats best to do dont ruin a good relationship fior the sake of what used to be. of course u still love him u always will love ur first love but obviously u split for a reason. u need to think seriously hard before doing anything good luck i hope ur happy with whatever u decide to do
2006-07-14 02:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by browneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I think you're very confused on the definition of love here. Love is more than just a feeling. Love is putting the other person first and sacrificing for them. What I hear you describing is an infatuation. Infatuations arn't bad, but they don't last.
True love doesn't compare partners, it is loyal. True love doesn't end. And it's not the kind of thing that results in confusion. That's infatuation talking.
My advice is to decide if you TRULY love EITHER of these two men. My guess, based on what you've told us, is that you don't.
I'm not brow-beating you, but if you want any chance at a permanant, happy relationship, you've got to "go for the gold." And that means with your OWN actions. There's no room for mediocrity, and there's no such thing as the perfect mate, or perfect compatability. You and your partner have got to make it work!
Love is a verb; it is an action that you must take, and it absolutely involves risk.
2006-07-14 09:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even consider going back to him! If he let you go once for another girl I'm sure he won't hesitate to do it again. If you go back to him you will loose your current boyfriend and you will never be sure of how long it will last with the old guy. If he really wanted you he would have contacted you way before three years. And you don't really luv him, if you did you wouldn't have lasted so long with your current boyfriend. Also if you go back to him he'll have you eating out of the palm of his hand. Tell him to get a life.
2006-07-14 09:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by phoebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs u back cuz he cant find another one or cuz he found out that the girls he dates were less than u so he is now saying she was the best i have ever had!!
u cant go back to him cuz u have a bf and u have to know that ur relation with ur ex must be ended cuz it will end any way for a million reason and u will be hurtin 3 ppl!
2006-07-14 08:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your questioning your self may be you shouldn't be with your boyfriend either. Why go back if he left you? You need to think carefully before making any rash decisions mcos some one will be hurt. Listen to your head. My ex has been wanting me back since we separated 6 years ago we broke cos he was violent mhe was my world tho he broke my trust. and hurt me severely. I will never go back as a leopard never changes his spots.
2006-07-14 08:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somtimes you dont realize what you have till its gone, he may have matured more since the relation the first time, or meybe hese just a player, if it is something you feel sincere about and want then only your heart can direct you in this matter. are you happy? would you be happy or happier?
2006-07-14 09:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by NICK B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was the reason u gays broke up in the first place just stay with the one your with no need to back
2006-07-14 08:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is any doubt in your mind, please tell you boyfriend of three years. It would be so unfair to him for you to hit him with this out of the blue. Just remember, he is your ex for a reason.
2006-07-14 09:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to the evil you know
2006-07-14 08:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he's just playing with you or he likes you i guess
2006-07-14 08:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋